Man Loudly Objects During Son's Proposal to Girlfriend, Calling It a Mistake and Ruining the Moment, Doubles Down When Confronted: 'I was just being honest'

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    - The moment I got down on one knee, my dad loudly said, "Don't do it, son – you're making a mistake!" The entire table froze, and my girlfriend looked completely mortified. She still said yes, but the whole vibe was ruined.
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    r/AITAH u/taastefulsweets • 4h . AITAH for refusing to forgive my dad for ruining my proposal because he thought I was "too young"?
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    I (27M) planned a surprise proposal to my girlfriend (26F) of four years during a family dinner. It was special because it's where we had our first date, and I wanted everyone to be part of the moment. I told my parents ahead of time so they wouldn't be blindsided, but my dad (56M) immediately started lecturing me about how I was "too young" to get married and should wait until my 30s.
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    I figured he'd keep his opinions to himself during the proposal, but nope. The moment I got down on one knee, my dad loudly said, "Don't do it, son-you're making a mistake!" The entire table froze, and my girlfriend looked completely mortified. She still said yes, but the whole vibe was ruined.
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    After dinner, I confronted my dad, and he doubled down, saying he was "just being honest" and that I should be thanking him for "saving me from a rushed decision." I haven't spoken to him since. My mom and siblings keep saying I'm overreacting and that he was just looking out for me, but I feel like what he did was completely out of line. So, AITAH for not forgiving him? 1,187 | 570
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    Perimentalpause • 4h NTA. Tell your dad that just because he regrets sowing his seeds early and winding up married before he got to be an idiot doesn't mean that you want to follow in his footsteps. Point out that it's really gross to know that he's basically stating in a backhanded way that he regrets you and your siblings and being married to your mom. That marriage is a mistake. You're almost 30, ffs. That's not 'too young'. Reply 1456
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    brattywitchcat • 4h This! If I were OP's mom, I think I'd be giving my husband the side eye, especially if they were married young. Or maybe she secretly agrees, and they are assuming that their sucky marriage is what OP is fated to have if he goes through with it. Either way, dad's projecting some hard-core emotions onto his son's relationship. 111
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    Affectionate_Oven428 ⚫ 3h This was exactly my take. His dad regrets his own life and is projecting onto his adult kid. The mom and siblings s k too. Time to go LC for a while until there are genuine apologies from the entire family. 47
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    Constant-Ad9390 • 2h Yeah he was 29 when OP was born. If I were his wife I wouldn't be telling OP they were being too sensitive I'd be seeking a divorce lawyer as OP's father obviously regrets his choices. ← 25
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    Olive Mammoth6696 • 4h NTA. He literally just sealed his fate for the relationship he's going to have with your wife and her family for the rest of your lives. Your dads a super a hole. Your mom and siblings too btw. Reply 665
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    katybean12 3h Exactly this. His future DIL now loathes OP's father and probably the rest of his family given their defense of the narcissistic a hole. So OP tell your family congrats, they'll not be seeing. much of you guys and any possible future children, they've poisoned that well and there's no way to fix it. 171
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    Zealousideal_Till683 · 4h 27 too young? At 27, my dad had emigrated, got married, bought a house and had two kids. What is it. with the infantilisation that goes on today? Your father's behaviour is utterly unforgiveable. NTA. Reply 199
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    Comprehensive-Sun954 • 4h All your gf/fiance heard was that she was a mistake. Not that he cared about your age. NTA. Make sure she knows it wasn't about her at all. ... Reply û 77 ♡
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    maroongrad • 4h oh, it's totally about her. She's going to take his son, his widdle baaaabeeeee, away from the family. At 27. It has nothing to do with his age, it's got to do with his father being a possessive controlling a h le. He wasn't 17. He was 27. TWENTY. SEVEN. This is 100% control, and she's the challenge and interloper.
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    OP, give her absolute encouragement to call your dad up and scream at him for ruining her once-in- a-lifetime moment. Let her shriek at him up one side and down the other, and tell him he's absolutely senile if he believes for just one second that he's going to be welcome at her wedding, much less in your lives.
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    AND MEAN IT. Or, if you don't let her rip into him and then tell him that she's completely correct, expect her to either leave you or for you both to deal with this forever.
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    For now, plan a lovely engagement party with her, where her friends, your friends, and her family AND NOT YOURS can come and congratulate the two of you. Turn your dad's a hole behavior into a joke. "Well, if I'm too young, I guess it's not senility on his part!" and make jokes about how, as people get older and older, everyone else looks younger and younger.... You need to salvage this. I'm sorry. 273
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    - thejackalreborn 4h NTA that's completely disgusting behaviour from him Reply 136
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    HorrorLover 4h Absolutely disgusting behaviour from your Dad. Your mum and sibling are in the wrong too. ← Reply 129
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    Briiiiiiyonce 4h • NTA. What's wrong with your family? I'd go LC with them all for now. Reply Ŵ 47 ♡
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    Round-Place548. 4h Your mom and siblings think you're overreacting? Are they afraid of your dad or is he normally this controlling? Either way definitely NTA. Congrats on your engagement. ← Reply 37
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    NTA mecegirl • 4h If you and your future wife have children, tell him he's too young for grandkids when he comes sniffing around. ... Reply D û 14 ♡
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    Artistic-Giraffe-866 • 4h - You are not overreacting at all - that behaviour was rife and crass in the extreme – I'm wondering when he proposed and if he lives continuously in regret ? I would call him on it! Reply 9 3

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