‘I'm tired of being disrespected’: Golden child calls sister the ‘family failure,’ sister refuses to attend family vacation when parents take golden child's side

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Lana DeGaetano • "Show me to me please."
Feb 9, 2025 2:00 PM EST

Growing up with siblings has the potential to make an individual's childhood enjoyable, accompanied, or dreadful. Of course, there's a gray in-between area of two opposite sides along this spectrum, but we love extremes here at Cheezburger.

You're likely well-acquainted with the concept of the 'golden child'—this child is their parents' prized possession and often steals the spotlight (or any attention, really) from their other sibling(s). Sometimes the golden child is unaware that they are the cherry on top of the familial cake, but others know exactly their place on their parents' child hierarchy and aren't afraid to act out because they know they can without repercussion.

The bronze child in this story refuses to attend a family vacation after her golden child sister labels her the "family failure" at the family dinner. In true golden child fashion, their parents are excusing this ill-mannered behavior and are upset with the bronze child's decision to skip out on family vacation… The golden child might only be gilded!

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  • "AITA for refusing to go on a family trip after my sister called me 'the family failure'?"

    So, I (25F) have always had a bit of a rocky relationship with my older sister (27F). She's always. been the "golden child" in
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  • our family-straight A's, great job, married with kids, you get the idea. Meanwhile, I took a different path. I struggled through college, jumped
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  • between jobs, and I'm currently working a retail job while trying to figure out my career. Not perfect, but I'm doing my best.
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  • No child should be pitted against one of their siblings. Everyone excels, learns, and grows at different times… deciding a child is better than another is objectively bad parenting. It's not like the woman who posted this story made life exceptionally difficult for her family, she only looked “bad” relative to her sister (and even then, this way of parental thinking is slightly abhorrent.) Straight-A's mean nothing if you lack good character, which you'll soon bear witness to.

  • Last week, we had a family dinner where my parents announced they wanted to take the whole family on a vacation to celebrate their
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  • anniversary. It sounded. nice until my sister started joking about how she hopes I can actually afford to take time off.
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  • She then followed it up by saying, "It's okay, we all know you're the family failure, but at least you're fun to have around."
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  • Everyone laughed. I awkwardly smiled, but inside, I was done. This isn't the first time she's made comments like that,
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  • but it hit differently this time. After the dinner, I told my parents I wasn't comfortable going on the trip. They tried to brush it off as my sister "just joking," but I told them I'm tired of being disrespected.
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  • Now my whole family is upset with me. My sister texted me saying I'm being "dramatic" and that I'm ruining the trip for everyone. My parents
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  • said they understand I'm hurt, but I should come and "not let her get to me." I really don't want to go, but now I feel guilty for upsetting everyone. AITA for saying no to the trip?
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  • Hidden_Vixen21 Anybody who doubles down after learning you got upset about a joke is not a good person. They lack empathy and think their pride is more important than your pain
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  • Emotional_Flow2... Dont go. At least untill your sister apologizes.
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  • cutexgianna NTA. Your sister crossed a line, and you don't owe it to anyone to put yourself in a situation where you're disrespected. It's totally okay to take a step back for your mental health.
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  • lovexxpurple NTA, setting boundaries against disrespect is crucial.
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  • writing_mm_rom... Nope, jokes should never have an unwitting participant as the punch. That makes them not jokes, it makes it bu ying.
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  • Rafflesia Arnoldii NTA They ALL laughed at you. It's probably not hard to think of better uses for your time than being around people who look down on you.
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  • PapayaOk4725 If your presence is only valued when you're the punchline, then it's not a healthy environment. You're not ruining the trip-your sister's behavior is.
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