Mom evicts daughter from home after she spends 9 years paying the mortgage, protests when she stops her from seeing grandkids: 'I had no choice, I packed up my kids and moved out'

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Ally Perry • Writer and Editor
Feb 17, 2025 6:00 PM EST

One of the most common things involved in arguments that break families apart is money. What's even worse, though, is when the disagreement involves assets, especially housing. It is these kinds of situations that have an unfortunate tendency to lay bare the very worst parts of familial relationships, whether it is a case of paying rent or inheriting property. 

Many people have experienced the stress that comes with finding a place to live and in theory, family members should be a safe bet in helping you out with that. Unfortunately, in many cases, this couldn't be further from the truth. There are plenty of people out there who think nothing of exploiting their own relatives when they need a place to stay, or indeed when they extend the generosity of this. It can lead to some difficult situations, sometimes where people no longer speak with one another, for understandable reasons.

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  • This is exactly what one parent found herself doing after her own mom tricked her out of living in a home she had been paying off for almost a decade. The house had originally been bought when her mom planned to leave her husband, but she offered it to her daughter when she decided against divorce. 

    Over the years, the place needed multiple repairs that the daughter paid for but her mom had been dishonest about how much money was needed to help with this. It all led up to her demanding an extra $20,000 from her child just as she was about to complete her mortgage payments. 

    Her family had to move, and as a result the woman didn't want her mom to see her grandkids anymore. She didn't take this well, and the extended family was taking her side.

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    AITA for refusing to let my kids see my mother after she sold the home I paid for?

    For nearly nine years, I lived in and paid for a home under the agreement that once it was paid off, my mother would transfer the title to me. The home was in her name, but I covered the mortgage, lot rent, and all expenses. I also put my own money into renovations and repairs like new flooring, light fixtures, refinishing cabinets, replacing appliances, and fixing the oven. My mom originally bought the home in 2015, planning to leave her husband. When she changed her mind about the divorce, she
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    The Roof & Her Changing the Terms In 2022, my roof started leaking. I called my mom for advice, but she didn't know anyone who could do small repairs. My boyfriend at the time (who had roofing experience) helped me fix it, and I paid for all the materials. Later, she insisted on sending out someone she knew to check the roof. Since the home was in her name, I couldn't stop her. She then decided to have the entire roof replaced without my consent. When I asked about the cost, she brushed it off,
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    In early 2023, she suddenly demanded $3,000 for the roof, despite never discussing payment beforehand. I told her this felt unfair, since I never agreed to it. I offered to make monthly payments, but she was furious. Her Final Ultimatum By early 2024, I was less than $3,500 away from fully paying off the home. I was ready to be done with all the drama. But then, in February 2024, my mom raised the roof cost by another $1,500, bringing it to $4,500, and added other random fees, telling me I had o
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    I was stunned. I asked why, and all she said was, "The choice is yours to make-you just have to decide what path to take." No explanation—just an ultimatum. When I refused, she started making my life h_ I. In April 2024, she showed up unannounced and refused to leave until the police made her. At that point, I had no choice-I packed up my kids and moved out on May 1st, 2024. Not long after, she sold the home I had spent nearly a decade paying for, keeping all the money for herself.
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    My Family Thinks I Should "Move On" Now, my family says I'm the bad guy for cutting her off and "keeping her grandkids away." But my kids want nothing to do with her—they were old enough to understand what happened and felt just as betrayed as I did. To make things worse, she has been showing up uninvited to my kids' events and causing scenes. I'm now looking into legal options to keep her away, as I don't want her forcing her way back into their lives.
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    My family says I should "just move on" because "it's not worth losing family over." But I can't just forget about all the money I put into that home. It's been almost a year, and I am now seeking legal advice because I refuse to let her get away with it. I feel like I owe her nothing at this point, but my family keeps guilt- tripping me, saying I'm being too harsh. AITA for refusing to let my kids see my mother and not just "moving on" like my family wants me to?
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    Other people were horrified with the mom's behavior.

    Srvntgrrl_789 NTA, and screw what your family says. I saw on another Reddit post that "moving on" and "keeping the peace" translate to "shut up and take the abe so we can maintain the status quo". Your mother cheated YOU and YOUR CHILDREN out of a home you paid for, and made better. Tell your mom the next time the kids will visit her will be at her funeral.
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    nicolepeachyy NTA. Your mother's actions were unfair and manipulative, and you have every right to protect yourself and your children from her behavior. You've invested a lot of time and money into that home with the understanding that it would eventually be yours.
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    aubiebravos Agree. This is way beyond the level of "keeping the peace." Mom essentially stole OP's house...
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    runawayforlife Mom did steal OP's house. AND she stole the house of those grandkids she thinks are so deprived without her in their lives smh Not coming at you just really mad at OP's mom and also she did steal from OP and get kids: they had an agreement, op kept up her end, mom reneged when OP wouldn't let her squeeze out extra. Hopefully they had enough in writing that OP can get her money back, at least, even tho the house has been sold
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    MBiddy828 If the amount of money you invested in the house is so insignificant to the rest of your family they can reimburse you. It would help you get over it. You are NTA
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    Birdbraned "You know what, you're totally right. Could you help make my kids whole? I'm asking all family to donate to the kids housing fund, just trying to make up the X0,000 dollars the kids lost out on that would have gone to their permanent home"
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    ConstructionNo9678 Exactly. OP could also try flipping this to whoever asks. "No, mom ruined her relationship with the kids and I over money and threw us out of our home for almost a decade. She's the one who chose to lose her family."
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    HoldFast02 Excellent suggestion, yes. "Sure, Aunt Emma! I just need you and every other adult member of the family to pitch in 10K each, then I have all the money back The Hag stole from me, and she can come visit the kids. Under supervision. For as long as they want to see her. After all, family is more important than money, right?"
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    Valuable-Job-7956 Send her a cease and desist letter telling her to leave you and your kids alone if she doesn't then got to the police and file charges for harassment. Also talk to your kids schools inform them that she is not allowed near your kids. And as for your family ask them what they would do if they had a deal with someone and that person kept changing the terms to the point where you had to walk away. See what they say
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    kurtzapril4 NTA. Get a lawyer to get the money back, plus profit, that you put into the house. File for an order of protection against your mother. You are not the bad person here...your mother is, and so is everyone telling you to just move on.
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    Ok_Chance 1036 For starters if you have proof that the property was going to be yours and proof of payments then you can take her to court. If she makes out that wasn't the agreement, it was just a 'rental' you can take her to court because raising rent by 200% is illegal! Ask your family members if they are willing to give you the money that you put into a house, so you can have the permanent home you were paying for and expecting for you and your children, if not then they can tell their story
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    montauk6 NTA. Please instruct whichever process server you use to tell your mom, "God is providing you with this summons."
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    Soft-Ad-385 NTA. She took advantage of you. She broke faith with you first and proved the money is worth more to her than you are.
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    Used-Negotiation-386 NTA. I had a similar situation. Agreed to live in a multi generational home with my in laws, deal was that they'd sign the house over to us. After building basically another house onto their house (added 3 bdrm and a bath to make it a 4 bdrm, 2 full bath home), paid $100k over 10 years, and they never would talk about signing the house over. I finally realized that they never were going to, they saw it as their house, and we were being allowed the august privilege of living
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    flowerstamp NTA, you are literally trying to "move on" from this and none of your remaining family seem to want you to. You are trying to pick yourself up again and make your life better, which means leaving the woman who literally destroyed your family's sense of safety behind you. Moving on doesn't mean you just rug sweep all of the horrible things your mom has put you through "because family." She has no place in your future and you should let everyone else know they can either get with the p
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