Man insists on paternity test when his 3 week old has dark hair, wife realizes his insinuation of infidelity and starts to question his: “It feels like he doesn’t trust me”

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    AITAH if I'm upset that my husband mentioned getting a paternity test?

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    My (31F) husband (32M) just mentioned that he's keen on getting a paternity test for our 3 week old baby girl.
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    His reasoning is that our daughter has darker hair than him (he has brown hair, I'm white blonde). I'm a little confused as she hardly has any hair and this just feels like he's accusing me of infidelity!!!
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    I actually thought he was joking initially. The conversation went as follows:
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    He said, "her hair is really dark". So I said, "yeah, it is" even though it isn't darker than his. He then mentioned getting the test...it was completely out of the blue. I initially said that he should go for it as I wasn't thinking. But, now I've had some time to reflect, I'm really not happy about it. If he wants to
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    get the test, fine by me BUT, it just feels like he doesn't trust me? Am I overthinking this?! He has no reason to think like this.
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    He even went as far as to say, "if she wasn't mine biologically, she'd still be my girl"... That statement. just ped me off and I've said nothing to him since. So, AITAH?
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    Update 1: Thanks for all the comments and advice. There seems to be some common responses, so I thought I'd just reply to them here... I'm more than happy for him to get the test but, as most have mentioned, that would confirm his lack of trust in me, his wife, and I don't think I could overlook that. I
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    think I'll seek some counselling to discuss this issue further (I'll be inviting him to join me!!).
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    Some mentioned that our daughter might have been swapped at birth and the test would benefit us both. I can assure all of these commentators that she didn't leave my side once throughout our hospital stay (from her entrance to the world, to her leaving the hospital with us). I'm very happy that she's our little one.
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    Most people mentioned projection on his part. I must admit I hadn't thought about this! I'm almost certain that this isn't the case but, I will discuss my fears/concerns with him as this is now at the forefront of my mind! I will update accordingly. Thank you all!
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    Professional-Tie4009 16h ago When our second child looked vastly different from our first, my husband doubted the hospital staff. He insisted for weeks that the hospital switched our baby with someone else's. He never once accused me of cheating.
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    I am only saying this to show how that's where his mind is and the doubting of looks doesn't cause someone to automatically jump to cheating conclusions.
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    Fu... 16h ago • Edited 15h ago • "this just feels like he's accusing me of infidelity!" That's because he is. EDIT: If he believed the baby was switched at birth, he'd use his that. words and say
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    cthulularoo • 16h ago Check his phone and email. Theres a chance he's projecting.
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    MsTerious1 16h ago My first husband did this to me in 1990-91, regarding our third child. At the time, it would've cost over $700 in 1990 dollars because DNA tests were a specialty thing for court cases usually. I told him to off.
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    Fast forward: I hadn't cheated, but he had been cheating pretty regularly, apparently, according to the phone calls I got from other women insisting that they would only stop calling my home if HE told them to.
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    I agree with taking an impromptu look at his text messages and emails... whether he agrees or not. If he doesn't agree "right now," leave him. Don't give him a second chance so that he'll agree only after he's deleted all incriminating evidence. If
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    you really want to, you can go look at the cell phone bills to find any unfamiliar phone numbers and start reverse searching them or do internet searches to find out who they belong to. Sometimes you can put the phone number into Facebook search, too, and see who comes up.
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    tired-and-cranky • 16h ago My husband has dark brown hair. I have dirty blonde hair that is being overtaken by silver. My oldest child has dirty blonde hair that is lighter than mine. By your husband's logic, I should request a maternity test.
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    • No_Beginning_8275 16h ago There are much deeper issues going on in your marriage. One doesn't just casually "ask for a paternity test" unless there is something deeper going on.

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