Mid-30s woman insists on bringing her stepchildren and their bio moms to sister’s in-law’s lake house, sister refuses, causing sisterly feud: “I don’t know Rick or any of his other kids”

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    AITA for not inviting my sister’s new step-kids to my in-laws lake house?

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    Hello! My sister is in her mid-30s and I'm almost 30 (RIP to my 20s). She's always been the handful and can be difficult. She got divorced officially a year ago but was separated for a lot longer. She's been with this guy named Rick for a while. He has 3 kids with 3 different moms. The two older kids are teens. The most recent kid
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    (baby) happened while dating my sister when he cheated on her. She decided to still see him and now she's pregnant with his 4th kid and now she is his 4th baby mama? She has two kids with her now ex- husband. So, lots of kids. I basically told her I'm not thrilled that you stayed with this guy that cheated on you but it's your life.
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    Onto the issue. My in-laws are wealthy and have multiple properties. Their newest one is a lake house that's tons of fun and in a nice area. Last year my sister and my niece and nephew came and it was a great time. My plan is to go every year and I was hoping my niece and nephew would get to go each year. Now that my sister is
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    with this guy, she thought everyone would get an invite.
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    My issue isn't against the kids but I don't know Rick or any of his other kids. I haven't met them once so it's odd to me to invite them. Plus, I don't know these other moms. I just think there's too much risk involved inviting minors that my husband and I don't even know. The other moms could sue if someone gets hurt for all I know.
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    The lake house has jet skis, water trampolines, boating, tubing, water slides, etc. which could cause injury. Just for some information- this Rick guy was on track to be some pro athlete when these other moms were around so I'm already assuming they were gold diggers and after money. Rick is definitely not wealthy by any means with
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    child support and supporting all these kids with his career.
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    Also, it's not our house. My in-laws are kind enough to allow me to invite my sister, my niece, and my nephew but adding on 4 extra people is a little much in my opinion. I was at my niece and nephews births and they know my husband and in-laws really well so I think it's just an entirely different situation.
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    I told my sister today that her, my niece, and nephew are invited but not everyone else. My sister's response is that they won't be going because they're "one unit” and "it all needs to be fair". It's so unfortunate because my niece and nephew will now be missing out. So, AITAH in this situation? My husband said no as well so it's not just me.
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    Cozy Raindrop • 13h ago Your sister's new step-kids are basically Pokemon at this point, gotta catch 'em all. But in all seriousness, it's important to prioritize your own comfort and safety when it comes to inviting strangers into someone else's property.
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    Your sister may be upset, but ultimately it's not your responsibility to accommodate her and her new partner's blended family. You're NTA in this situation.
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    Flimsy-Wolverine-... • 12h ago Not your circus, not your monkeys. Sorry for sis, but she made her(shared) bed.
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    RevolutionaryDiet6... 12h ago • NTA It is not your home. You would be acting entitled if you invited her & the whole group of strangers to your In Laws house.
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    mishi_1973 • 12h ago Nope, your NTA. You make very valid points. I also see her point of view. In her mind, they are a packaged deal, so it is ultimately her choice to either let your niblings come to the lake house or not.
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    I wonder, do the other moms invite your niblings to outings with the step kids and would she trust them to go? I have a feeling the answer would be no, so she shouldn't be upset with you either
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    UseObjectiveEvide... • 12h ago You invited her plus your nephew and niece. She refused. Not your problem anymore.
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    Sh... 12h ago • Edited 12h ago NTA. Can you go when the step kids are with their moms. And I think I can say any guy with four baby mamas is not responsible. He should have learned after the first kid, but if he didn't learn to wrap it up after the second, I wouldn't
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    trust this guy with a goldfish, let alone at a very nice lake house.
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    No-Cranberry4396 • 12h ago NTA. Putting aside any judgements about this mans character, or your sister's sanity for choosing to procreate with him it's simple.
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    It's not your house. It's your in-laws house. Your niece, nephew and sister are known to them. You and your in-laws don't know Rick or his other children. You don't know their mum's. There is no connection there. You're right to be concerned about potential liability if something went
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    wrong as you don't know how any of the multiple parents involved would react.

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