28-year-old's entitled little sister demands to have her wedding dress despite not even being engaged yet: "What's she gonna do, play mini-golf in it?"

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    AITA for Not Allowing My Sister to Have My Wedding Dress After I've Already Worn It?

    "It's just a dress. Why not let me wear it, too?"
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    I (28F) recently got married to my husband (30M), and it was an amazing day. I had the wedding of my dreams and felt absolutely beautiful in my dress. It was something I had been planning for years, and I knew it was the one the moment I tried it on.
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    My sister, "Lily" (25F), has always been kind of... well, needy when it comes to attention. She's never quite liked the idea of me getting the spotlight, especially with major life events like my wedding. A few months before the wedding, she casually
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    mentioned that she would love to wear my dress someday. I didn't think much of it at the time, so I told her that I was sure I'd be open to letting her wear it after my wedding, once I was done with it.
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    The problem arose when I got my dress cleaned after the wedding. Lily came over to visit and immediately began asking me how soon she could take the dress for herself. She said she didn't want to wait too long and that she wanted to "feel special" in it too.
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    I told her that I wasn't comfortable with that. It's my wedding dress, and I felt like it was something so personal to me. She tried to guilt-trip me, saying things like, "It's just a dress, why not let me wear it
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    too? It's not like you're going to use it again." She even made a comment about how it's "so unfair" that she didn't get to have a dress like mine for her own wedding (she's not even engaged yet).
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    I explained that while I loved her, I just didn't feel comfortable with her wearing my dress. She could find something similar or buy a new one that she would make her own. She started crying and telling me I was being selfish and that I was making her feel left out.
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    Now, I feel guilty because I don't want to hurt her feelings, but I also believe it's important for me to set this boundary. I know my wedding dress is special to me, and I don't want it to lose its significance.
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    Important_Row 5882 NTA honestly it's your dress and your memory, she can get her own without trying to guilt-trip you
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    Stock-Cell1556 And she's not even planning a wedding! What's she gonna do, go play mini golf in it?
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    feral_witch First thing I thought of was a wreck the dress photo shoot. That would make her the center of attention and hurt her sister all at the same time
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    xonaiomitsxo That's exactly what crossed my mind too! A "wreck the dress" photoshoot would definitely make her the center of attention, but in a really disrespectful and hurtful way. It would completely overshadow the significance the dress holds for the sister
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    who actually wore it on her wedding day. It feels like an attempt to take something personal from her, and that would only create more tension between them. Setting boundaries here is important, and this kind of thing would only make the situation worse.
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    LiliaCherries I agree and this shouldn't be an issue, she should understand that it was your wedding dress and it's special to you NTA you did nothing wrong.
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    mca2021 What a manipulator. I'm curious how often her sister shares her special things with OP. I'm guessing never. NTA.
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    Rare_Nobody_4040 I'm thinking she is going to wear it to a paintball range. Do not let her have it. She can purchase her own dress to feel "special" in. She just wants to ruin it for you
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    Wild-Pie-7041 NTA. Anytime a person says, "just" to rationalize why you should say yes instead of no, turn it back on them. If it's "just" a dress, she won't have any problem getting her own.
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    Either_Coat_2161 Interesting that Lilly never offered to pay for the dress or even split the cost. She just wants what she wants. OP is justified to do whatever she wants with her things, and choosing not to share something that has monetary and sentimental value is totally OK.
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    BeachinLife1 Stop feeling guilty, you are falling into her trap. She's trying to make you feel guilty. She is not even engaged yet. If she's planning on having the dress hacked up and changed into a different dress, she needs to just get her own dress. Tell her if it's "just a dress," she should have no problem with getting a different one.
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    cassowary32 Does she want to take your husband for a spin too? NTA. Please make sure you keep the dress somewhere secure.
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    Dancing Desert_Girl Exactly! Make sure that your dress is somewhere safe, somewhere your sister cannot get a hold of it!
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    RileysVoice How about you just tell her to grow up. You need to stop enabling her behaviour. No means no! As an adult she needs to accept that!
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    No_Form8498 It's your wedding dress, and it's totally understandable that you want to keep it as something special to you. You were generous enough to offer it to her initially, but she's crossed a
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    boundary by pressuring you into giving it up. Her reaction seems more about her desire for attention than genuine affection for the dress, and you're allowed to set boundaries around something as personal as your wedding dress.

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