Inconsiderate grandmother demands bald 16-year-old granddaughter to put a wig on in front of her, mother gets between them and kicks her out: “It’s constructive criticism”

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Apr 29, 2025 12:00 PM EDT

Welcome back ladies and gentlemen of the internet. Beauty standards can get the best of us, especially today in the era of digital platforms and technologies that can make every layperson of average attractiveness feel embittered to their core. It's a modern era of AI, Instagram models, and constant cameras in our faces to the point where you can't even enjoy a night out without feeling like you have to look your best just in case someone snaps a photo of you and posts it for the world to see. Even as I'm typing this out, the notion seems so dystopian and strange, so foreign to being really concretely human in a bizarre and inhumane way. 

With the influx of beautiful people online, and even young children knowing far too well how to dress themselves to look mature, there's a smidge of hope in the people who make the choice to take pressure off of themselves and those around them to be stereotypically beautiful. 

In the story below, the narrator is a woman whose daughter has the unfortunate disposition of having alopecia, an autoimmune disease in which your own immune system attacks hair follicles to the point of being rendered bereft of them. Read the full story below for all the juicy details.

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    AITAH for tearing into my mother after she made a disrespectful comments about my daughter’s appearance?

    "My daughter was in tears" WORLD BOOK WORLD WORL ORLD BOOK
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    1 35(F) have a daughter who is 16 years old. She was diagnosed with alopecia(forgive me if I spelt it wrong) she lost all of her hair four months ago. She had a boyfriend who broke up with her after she lost her hair. She is extremely insecure about it. We had to switch her to online school, she was getting severely bu ied.
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    My daughter doesn't like for anyone see her without wigs. She doesn't like to be natural around me either. It's heartbreaking because I think she's super gorgeous, but due to her getting bu ied and her boyfriend breaking up with her, her mental health went downhill. Her father and I have her in therapy. We do everything we can to be supportive.
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    Today my mother came over for dinner. My daughter came downstairs without a wig. I was so happy she was finally comfortable enough to not wear a wig. My mother has outdated views on things, and she has impossible beauty standards.
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    My daughter was sitting at the dinner table. Everything was going fine for a few minutes. My mother opened her mouth, and said, "You have wigs! Why don't you wear them! You're making me very uncomfortable. What makes you think me or anyone else would want to look at that?"
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    My daughter was in tears, and ran upstairs to her room and slammed her door. Her father went upstairs to check on her. I was furious. I yelled, "How dare you say some horrible sh lien that to your granddaughter? Do you have any idea what she's been through? She was already getting bu ied
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    enough, and just for you to buy her and traumatize her some more? Get the f house!" out of my
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    My mother said, "It's just constructive criticism!"
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    I yelled, "That is not constructive criticism! That is bu ying and making my daughter feel bad about herself. Leave!"
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    My mother left. My brother texted me, telling me I took it too far and that I should be ashamed for taking to my own mother that way. AITAH? Should I have handled it differently?
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    Ok-Cancel1845 I nah, you ain't the.... in. this situation. That was straight up disrespect and bu ying. Constructive criticism my a, that's just being mean reason. You did for no the right thing by defending
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    your daughter and sticking up for her. Good riddance that your mother and brother are gone, you don't need that toxic energy around your daughter.
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    OC6chick Nta. I lost all my hair to chemo, it's heartbreaking, and mine was temporary. I can't imagine being young and losing it. It's hard and I hope she gets a you attitude to detractors to save
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    her psyche. Shame on your mother. She obviously taught you to be a nice person, but she s...ks
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    shelltrice I hope you keep your daughter (and yourself) away from that terrible person!
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    Not sure it will help - but if your daugher has not seen the original star trek movie - watch it. one of the female leads is totally bald and incredibly beautiful and ……....
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    Your daughter is beautiful - and loved she just unfortunately came in contact with ΝΤΑ
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    S _Loves_You_ NTA. I think you took it easy on her.
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    RJack151 NTA. Tell mom that she is never allowed in your home or near your daughter ever again.
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    Interesting Wing_461 The only person who should be ashamed of herself is your mother. She literally k her own granddaughter. I think she should lose all grandmother privileges.
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    Constantly Curious- NTA please don't ever let this. toxic woman around your daughter ever again. You always stand up for and protect your daughter. I'm positive your mother spun the narrative as the victim to your brother. You have absolutely nothing to be ashamed of.
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