Man expected to fork over large sum for his best friend’s honeymoon, but spends $1,500 on himself for a new watch instead, isolating him from the group: “You broke the agreement”

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Apr 30, 2025 2:00 PM EDT

Ahoy there, pirates and patriots of Cheezcake. Money is a wile invention by man. It's necessary, but harmful. It's a great evil of the world, and a great joy. There's no better feeling than being financially stable and secure, to feel comfortable about paying for the things you love and deserve. I know that I wasn't always financially secure, so being so now is such a relief off of my shoulders. I love saving my money, and I also love spending my money for high quality ingredients like pasta, cheeses, and nice drinks. At times when you don't feel as financially comfortable, it can get in the way of your mental health. 

Planning a wedding can also get in the way of your mental health, and some of that is obviously about the finances. Weddings are expensive, people can spend up to $100k on their wedding, and that doesn't include the honeymoon! 

In the story below, the protagonist is a man whose friend is getting married. His friend group has decided to chip in to the wedding and pay for the honeymoon, which isn't a small feat. The protagonist decides to spend a large sum on himself instead, but you'll have to read the full story below for all the juicy details. 

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    AITAH for buying myself something expensive right before my friend's wedding?

    "They are acting like I spent their money or something"
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    One of my best friends is getting married next month and all of us were supposed to hold off on any "big purchases" until after because we had agreed to chip in for some surprise gifts and extra stuff for their honeymoon.
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  • What kind of friend group agreement is this? Why should his friends be responsible for paying for his honeymoon or other wedding expenses? That's pretty bizarre, not to mention the fact that the protagonist said he can still afford to fork up enough sums for his friend's honeymoon. 

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    I was totally on board when we talked about it months ago. But a few weeks back I ended up grabbing something for myself I had been wanting for a long time. Honestly it only happened because I checked an old account I had basically forgotten about and
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    noticed there was more sitting there than I remembered. Not even sure when it added up but it felt dumb not to finally use it, especially because it was just sitting there doing nothing.
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    I bought myself a new watch, nothing insane but it was around $1500, and I figured I would still have enough left to help with the wedding stuff too. It felt like a win after a rough year, and honestly at the time it made sense to me. Now another friend
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    found out and is giving me grief about it, saying I "broke the agreement" and that it looks selfish. He is making it sound like I completely abandoned the plan when in reality I still fully intend to put my share toward the gifts.
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    It just feels like they are acting like I spent their money or something, which makes no sense to me. I get that timing probably looks bad but it was not like I went and blew everything or said I was not paying.
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    I already told them I would cover my part no matter what. Was I actually wrong for doing it if I still plan on holding up my side of the deal?
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    irm1102 12h ago NTA - you can spend your money how you want
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    • Vandelayyyylnd ⚫ 12h ago Hold off on big purchases? Who are they Jimmy Conway after the Lufthansa heist ?? This is an absurd request IMO. It's your money how they know what you have? Is everyone's bank account common knowledge? Are u
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    in a cult ?? Serious questions because I've never heard of this. No offense intended just wondering.
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    No-Fun8718 • 12h ago This is an extremely weird friend group
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    unimpressed-one • 12h ago NTA but I think you have weird friends.
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    VFTM 12h ago is this? You can't spend your money because your friend is getting married.??????????O
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    Left Detail6109 • 12h ago NTA. Excuse me? Your friends are dictating to you about what you spend on yourself? Um no!!! Your money is your money. If it works for your budget then why shouldn't
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    you treat yourself? Does your friend think that he has dibs on your entire bank account? Not selfish at all.
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    NewFile6157 • 12h ago NTA. The entitlement is wild. That $1500 you found would not have been an extra $1500 for the wedding stuff.
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    osmqn150 12h ago What does one thing have to do with the other?
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    Immediate-Return... • 12h ago NTA "friend" can eff right off with that nonsense. Probably envious that you had the disposable income for a nice watch.
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    Neslay Tollooza • 12h ago NTA. The fact your group of friends decided on nothing big until after the wedding seems absolutely ridiculous.
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    What if you were in actual need of something big? Like a new car...a major appliance needing to be replaced.... You end up with a medical emergency and subsequent bill to pay? What if you have your own girlfriend you want to propose to, you're not allowed to buy her a ring?
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    If you decided as a group you will all chip in a large amount of money towards a surprise gift or whatever, then that's fine. But no one has a right to tell anyone else what they can and can't do with their own money. As long as you can still afford to chip in what you agreed to, I don't see the problem.
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