Dad kicks out 16-year-old daughter after moving in his new wife and her 13-year-old daughter: 'My daughter believes that I've been treating my stepdaughter better than her'

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
May 24, 2025 11:00 AM EDT

Step-parents and their step-kids don't always get along at first: it might take some time for them to warm up to each other. When parents divorce, there are plenty of new feelings that families have to deal with, both negative and positive. It can feel destabilizing, or like the family is breaking up, and this hits kids and teens hard. Instead of having your parents in the same house, they might live with one parent most of the time and spend their weekends at the other parent's new home. 

When one or both parents start dating again, this can cause even more chaos and strife in the family. The kids might be confused or even resentful of the parent. At the young age of 16, this girl is not getting along with her new stepmother, and her dad is basically just making everything worse. 

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    I'm a 40-year-old father who's had primary custody of my 16- year-old daughter, and we shared a close and strong father- daughter relationship. However, things have taken a challenging turn for the worse since I moved my new wife and her 13-year-old Daughter into our home.
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    My daughter has been quite vocal about her dissatisfaction with my wife's efforts to be a mother figure and the way she tries to assert authority over her. She feels uncomfortable with my wife's attempts to take on a motherly role. Additionally, my daughter believes that I've been treating my stepdaughter better than her(I don't believe I have) which has led to a significant amount of resentment.
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    We've had multiple arguments about these issues, and it has reached a point where our household was constantly tense. We recently got into another heated argument due to my daughter cursing her stepmother out calling her the "b" word and in a moment of frustration, I suggested to my daughter that if she couldn't find a way to coexist peacefully with my wife and her stepsister, it might be best for her to move in with her mother.
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    As a result, my daughter has gone to live with her mother, and both of us are dealing with a lot of emotional pain and distance between us. I never intended to kick her out, and I miss her terribly, but I thought it might be the best solution to prevent further conflicts in our new family dynamic. AITA for making this decision?
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    What should be judged is me kicking my daughter out the house. I feel like I might be the ah le for not communicating well enough with my daughter and not taking her feeling & thoughts into account as to why she was acting the way she was.
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    Commenters had a nearly unanimous judgement: Dad was totally in the wrong here

    Willing-Helicopter... YTA. She's 16 and your wife is not her mom. Your wife doesn't get to boss her around and try to play mother figure. I'm betting you are in fact treating your new stepdaughter differently. How long had
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    you dated your wife before marriage? Have you talked. to your wife about boundaries around parenting your respective kids? Kicking out your daughter is an AH move and frankly you have likely ruined your relationship by choosing your new family over her.
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    [deleted] YTA. Why would you allow your new wife to play "mother figure" to a sixteen year old who already has a mom? When your daughter is clearly communicating that she wants no part in that? You're sacrificing your relationship with your own child to play happy families, have fun with that.
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    It seems like the Dad is already way too late with this realization

    [deleted] YTA - If your daughter feels the way she does there's a reason for it. And you proved her right by kicking her out and putting your new family in front of her. New partner should never come before your kid.
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    [de... YTA and a massive idiot What you have done by not addressing he issues with your daughter and just pool pooing them, you have irreparably damaged your relationship with her. What did you expect was going to happen when you moved in another woman and a teenaged girl.
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    You may not have treated your GF's daughter better on purpose, but you will have to to subconsciously please your wife. She told you she feels uncomfortable with your wife, and you ignored her. You put your new family above your own child, Don't be suprised if she disowns. you completely.
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    Edit to add.... This probably what your new wife wanted all the long, get your daughter out of the way and have you to herself.
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    diminishingpatience YTA. It was her home as well as yours. You decided to move other people in, regardless of the effect on her.
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    My daughter has been quite vocal about her dissatisfaction This could have made a difference if you'd genuinely cared about her.
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    Canyoubackupjust... YTA I am the daughter of a man like you. You lost your daughter forever. Even if you "make up" she'll never trust you or love you the same again. You. Blew. It. Think about this when you and your current wife divorce.
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