Neglectful millionaire parents demand 18-year-old daughter support herself financially once she moves out, she refuses to let them visit her new place: ‘I struggle to pay for essentials each week’

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    "I had to essentially raise myself from the age of 12"
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    My parents are demanding that I let them stay with me on their next trip.

    I'm in my mid-20s and live in a different state to my parents. "Boundaries" are a foreign concept to both of them and they've
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    always viewed me as an extension of them, rather than my own person. My parents plan on visiting the state I live in
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    next month and are demanding to stay with me. They didn't even ask if they could stay, they told me that they're staying with me and
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    refuse to accept otherwise. I'm a medical student, currently living in a tiny studio apartment. I don't
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    have room for anyone to stay with me, nor do I want anyone staying here. My course load is overwhelming and I need a quiet place to study.
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    I work part-time and pay for everything myself. Despite them being self- made multimillionaires, they have refused to help me financially since I
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    moved out at 18, which was a nightmare ordeal filled with years worth of guilt-trips, emotional blackmail... the works.
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    I live in one of the most expensive cities in the world, in a country where the cost of living is at a crisis point. I struggle to pay for essentials each week.
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    Nonetheless, my parents feel entitled to stay with me for free, because they "raised me". I put that in quotation marks, because they were
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    neglectful and largely absent throughout my childhood. I had to essentially raise myself from the age of 12 onwards, while also
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    being heavily parentified and forced to fulfil the role of a spouse to my father. I had to grow up very fast and my relationship with my
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    parents is damaged as a result of not only this, but also the extensive ake they inflicted upon my siblings and me.
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    I have told them that I can't have them stay with me, but they won't have it. I'm worried that they're going to turn up with their luggage and
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    force themselves into my home. I don't want to have to call the police on them if they turn up, but I can't have them stay here. What should I do? TIA.
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    TassDingo Even though you might not want to call the police, it appears whatever you want doesn't concern very much. Boundaries need to be set.
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    It doesn't sound like you have anything to gain by catering to their delusional mindset. You fight for your freedom and independence, don't let them Power check you.
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    Lazy Dummer You told them no, there's no room in both space and in time and money. Just don't be home the day they arrive. When they call, you're at work and cannot leave.
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    You're welcome to re-visit the no again. Where would they sleep? Your bed is too small for two people.
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    eri_K_awitha_K "No" is a complete sentence. You just keep saying "no" over and over again. Good luck. You got this. Keep us updated
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    MeanImpression2067 Say no and quit talking to them, it's not like you have any use for a relationship with them anyway.
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    simbapiptomlittle I can see why they are self made millionaires. Because they try pulling stunts like this. OP you're going to have to set your boundaries - lock, stock & barrel. "NO" is a sentence to their demands. Good luck OP.

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