Dad accuses daughter's husband of damaging his truck, she refuses to speak to them until they apologize for the accusations: “He was upset I stood up for my husbad”

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    AITAH for sticking up for my husband and refusing to be in contact with my parents until they apologize?

    "When he dropped the truck off it did not look the way he's claiming."
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    my husband borrowed my dad's truck almost 2 weeks ago to haul our old wash machine. He cleaned the bed and filled with gas when finished. Absolutely zero issues with the truck when he dropped it back
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    off. I'd seen my dad twice within a week after use, nothing was said about the truck. This Monday I went over with my son and he instantly confronted me saying he wanted me to send my husband over. I asked if he needed help with something and he said
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    "to have a talk but he didn't want to tell me why because he didn't want to stress me" i pressed what the issue was and he goes on about my husband breaking the latch to his roll top bed liner and the
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    backup camera. I was shocked and apologized if that's what happened but if he did break it i can guarantee he has no idea or he would have said something to him when he dropped the truck off, or at a minimum came to me. He insisted he knew, said it was obvious, all but calling my husband a liar without using the word liar.
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    I still insisted IF he had, he must not have known or realized because he would have said something. I offered to pay for repairs if that was the case, he refused. just insisted i send my husband over, not tell
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    him why and let him handle the situation. I got upset and yelled at him at this point that he was trying to treat my husband like a child, if there was an issue why didn't he call my husband and he only wants to
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    do this to humiliate him and try to catch him in a lie, (which isn't the case). I pointed out he wouldn't do this to my sisters husbands. Anyways, he was upset i stood up for my husband and i left shortly after.
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    i discussed the situation with my husband, and he said yes, the backup camera was not working when he got in the truck but assumed my dad knew because it said "service needed" on the screen. As far as this latch, he has no idea what he's talking
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    about and said that when he put the liner top back down it was on fine but admitted he never latched anything so he would have no idea if that was broke or not but the way my dad describes the damage, there was no way he did that because when he dropped the truck off it did not look the way he's claiming.
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    My husband attempted to talk to my dad in person and my dad just yelled at him, telling him he was bullshitting him and he knows what he did and he damaged the truck. My husband insisted and my dad went as far as saying "i took pictures of the damage,
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    i know you did it". my dad refused to hear my husband out. My husband at that point was not going to argue with him and left. my dad never showed him the damage or these pictures of the damage. Just described and yelled at my husband that he's a liar and knows what he did.
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    My husband is taking it better than me. My husband is adamant he did not do anything to my dad's truck and is confused why a week went by, and anything could have happened in that week before he noticed
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    it. I'm furious that he's just jumping to the conclusion that my husband damaged the truck and he tried to keep it a secret. What benefit would he have to do that?! I'm furious with the way my dad is handling the situation and the way he treated my husband in this
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    AND how he expected me to just be ok sending my husband over blindly, especially when he didn't do anything. This isn't the first time my dad has treated my husband this way, but it's the first time i've put my foot down and told my dad it wasn't ok what he was doing.
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    My mom has tried to text small talk to me but i don't have much to say. I had to drop off an item today and took it in and when asked if i wanted to sit for a bit i said no, im ok and walked out. i don't want to yell and i knew right now is end up arguing about it.
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    Until my dad apologizes for the way he's acting, i don't have anything to say to him. I know my mom isn't the one who said anything, but she excuses his
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    behavior and i can almost guarantee she's on the page my husband is lying because that's just the way she is. theyve never been that fond of my husband. I've chosen to go minimal contact for the time being.
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    AITAH for refusing to have contact with them right now due to the situation? i feel bad because it's my parents but im tired of them acting this way and im furious about the situation and how my dads handling it.
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    royalguard93 NTA. Your dad accused your husband without real proof, refused to have a direct adult conversation, and tried to corner him like a child. You stood by your partner and set a boundary, that's fair. Taking space until they act like respectful adults isn't wrong, it's healthy.
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    couldbemage OP even did the "being the bigger person" thing and offered to pay for the repairs even though hubs most likely didn't cause the damage.
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    Flounderkind8267 This sounds very fishy. I'm thinking maybe your dad knew it was already broken and was using the opportunity to get at your husband to make him feel bad? Idk, has he had negative opinions towards your husband in the past?
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    Prize_Maximum_8815 That's what I thought, too. Great job to OP for holding her father accountable for his behavior. If she doesn't, it'll just continue to get worse.
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    Oculus_Prime_ OP said her dad wouldn't do it to her sister's husband so you know her husband isn't the favourite SIL.
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    ok-smile-now OP He's definitely not. He even has a shirt with my sister husbands face on it that says "favorite son in law" I wish I was joking about that...
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    SlooperDoop My parents called my wife a golddigger and kept asking when she was getting a job. I quit talking to them. That was 25 years ago. I've never regretted it.
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    MargotFenring Sometimes when parents take this attitude I feel like it comes from a sense of ownership of the (adult) child. What's yours is theirs, and therefore a jobless spouse is stealing from them.
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    NTA Thatsnotreallytrue Your dad knew those things were damaged, and that's why he loaned the truck out. I'd just go NC with him
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    Question Differently That was my first thought. And wanted to get OP's husband to pay for the repair so wanted to blindside him with it.

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