Toxic guy expects friend to change her original lunch plans to fit his demands, throws a fit when she refuses, goes on to complain to his friends in her own home: 'Luis seemed a bit distant and moody'

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Emma Saven
Jun 10, 2025 6:00 PM EDT

What a Diva!
It's baffling to think about how entitled people have become these days. What part of "Would you like to join me for lunch?" screams, "I'll drop all my plans to make you happy (and pay for you while I'm at it)"?

Since when did being a considerate friend quietly shift into having "walkover" imprinted on your back? Is it really true that nice people always finish last—or is it that certain toxic friends have that je ne sais quoi that makes others believe every manipulative tale they're hand-fed?

There comes a point when selfishness can no longer be ignored, and you're forced to look around at the hand-picked circle of friends you've chosen to surround yourself with and ask, "Does this person add to my life, or take away from it?" As difficult as it may be to remove toxic friends from your daily routine, there comes a time when the person you once knew becomes unrecognizable, carrying intentions that no longer serve you. And that's okay. In fact, it's necessary to take time to sit with those feelings and realize it's not that certain people have outgrown you, but that you have outgrown certain people.

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  • Well, a certain friend really needs to start making some tough decisions. After kindly inviting her friend, Luis, to join her for lunch, she was hit with a blunt, last-minute rejection, simply based on the choice of restaurant. So, as planned, she went to lunch without Luis (no shade intended). But then, that same so-called “friend” went around complaining to everyone about how wrong it was that she didn’t change the restaurant choice based on his non-verbal request. 

    It's giving T-O-X-I-C!

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    AITA for not taking my friend to lunch?

    Last week, I was talking to my friend Luis and told him I had time Wednesday and going to El Pollo Loco for lunch and asked if
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    he wanted to go. He said yes so I said I would call him before picking him up somewhere around noon.
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    So Wednesday rolls around and I call Luis at 1145 to tell him I would be there in about twenty
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    minutes. He said that he just wasn't in the mood for El Pollo Loco. I said fine and I would catch
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    him another time. So I didn't go get him. Last night a bunch of friends were
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    at my place for a Stanley Cup Finals watch party and Luis seemed a bit distant and moody. I asked another friend, Ash, if
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    anything was wrong with Luis. Ash told me that I was a piece of carp for doing Luis dirty over
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    lunch. I explained that Lois said he didn't want to go where I was going so that's why I didn't go pick him up.
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    "Apparently", according to Ash, since I was the one who was treating Luis to lunch and he changed his mind about El Pollo
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    Loco, I should have asked him where he wanted to go and took him there. I have never heard of
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    such in my many years on this Earth. Was I wrong?
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    MeNeedSome Nac... NTA You invited him to lunch and stated where you wanted to go. He agreed. He broke the arrangement and is now blaming you because he didn't get his way. I don't see how you did anything. wrong based on your post.
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    Golden Rosie30 NTA. You were treating and he should've appreciated it no matter where you were going. Lunch is about company, not just the food.
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    Famous_Park_5792 NTA. Lunch was an offer, not an obligation. He had a chance to suggest an alternate spot if he wasn't in the mood for El Pollo Loco.
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    KrofftSurvivor NTA Now that you've identified the entitled folks in your circle of friends, make a note not to bother offering to treat those folks...
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    Careless-Ability-748 nta you invited him to a specific place because you were already going there
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    repthe732 NTA Ash and Luis are out of their minds. You asked if the guy wanted to come with you, he said yes and then
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    changed his mind and that's ok. What's not ok is him then expecting you to change your plans for him
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