Employee stops giving entitled coworker rides to and from work after she repeatedly slacks off on the job, refuses to do her any more favors because she's so ungrateful: ‘She's taking advantage of my kindness’

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  • "AITA for no longer giving my work colleague lifts to and from work"

    To start off, here is some background info. I live in a rural town of 14,000 people and there are no buses after 9pm and taxis will only come till about midnight if they have been booked.
  • I (36m) work in a carehome, I do backshifts that finish at 10pm and my mum would give me lifts. home as long as I pay her the amount I would have paid for a bus. My colleague E started
  • working a few months ago and had no idea about transport in the area so we reached an agreement that my mum would give her lifts for the same price.
  • She would try and pressure my mum to give her lifts in the morning and took a month of explaining that my mum only gives lifts for backshifts and the
  • 4 days of the year there are no buses (She seems to think I can order my mum to say yes). Other colleagues did give her lifts as well but some stopped as she
  • would ask for a lift for herself then bring four other people and there would not be enough room in the car. Took another month to understand she couldn't do this.
  • I now have my own car and took her when I was on shift and back. Problem is her behaviour, I've been working there longer and have tried to help her get better
  • but she laughs at me and walks off. I had to write it all down and give to her supervisor as others have had problems with her. The final straw happened today, she was having a go at me for not doing her work despite not telling me she needed help.
  • When I was doing meds, a resident kept trying to harm me and she was walking around us not helping at all because she was "busy". I managed to swap
  • flats but told her I would no longer give her lifts and due to my mum's health problems, she won't be doing it either.
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  • I have tried to talk to her in the past but she will interrupt me by speaking so loud, I can't get a word in. I've shown her how to use the bus app and how to book
  • taxis plus never charged her for the lifts as we live on the same street but no matter how nice I am, she laughs at me, pushes me
  • to do what she can't be bothered to do or when she is in trouble and we are in the same flat, she tells the senior that I did it.
  • Her supervisor has advised I stop giving her lifts as she's taking advantage of my kindess and it's her responsibility to get to work
  • and back as she was told (before accepting) what the hours would be but I kinda feel bad that she may have to pay out £8-9 to get home. So AITA?
  • Gemethyst Not your responsibility. But hers. Her behaviour, and her commute, and her finances.
  • WinkFuzzz You were more than generous for way too long. She took advantage of your kindness and didn't respect you or your time. You're not wrong for setting boundaries, especially after everything she's done.
  • Outrageous_Rabbit842 NTA her ability to get to work is not your problem. Sounds like she's worked there long enough that she should be able to at least buy a bike
  • BlondDee1970 NTA. Your coworker is taking advantage of you and this is a one way relationship. You are not benefiting whatsoever and your coworker is not trying to be of help to you in any way when there are opportunities to do so. You are too nice. Stop giving them rides and let them figure things out on their own.
  • Stu_01 Clearly NTA they're using you and expecting your generosity to fund their life. Cut them out immediately. They need to sort their own lift and pay for it accordingly. If they're not thankful for your time then you don't owe them any of yours!!

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