Deceitful officiant reads bride and groom's private letters out loud during wedding ceremony after promising not to open them at all, internet shares similar stories: "Well, I meant I wouldn't read them by myself"

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    Officiant reveals bride and groom's secrets

    "He promised that he wouldn't read the letters"
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    This happened at a wedding I went to a couple of weeks ago. Started off fine and the officiant (co- worker of bride's father) was giving his thoughts on marriage, love, etc. Then he remarked that he had
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    met with the bride and groom several days prior to the wedding for counseling. He stated that during that meeting, he had given the couple paper, pen and an envelope. He then put them in seperate
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    rooms and asked them to write their feelings and their reasons for choosing their partner and seal the letters in the envelope. He said he promised the couple that he wouldn't read the letters.
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    He then proceeded to take the envelopes from his inside jacket pocket and say, "Well, I meant I wouldn't read them by myself". He then opened the envelopes and reads off both letters aloud. Among
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    the absolute most private thoughts and feelings, the groom had commented that he grew up in a home without love and his childhood had been miserable. His family was completely dysfunctional and he had never known any happiness until he met his wife.
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    There was some very uncomfortable shuffling among the groom's family. I was not close with either one of them and even I wanted to sink into the floor.
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    Hugs98118 My officiant did this. He was also a catholic based marriage and family therapist. He requested we write each other letters. My wife wrote in some really deep things and expressed her battle with mental health that was not meant to be shared with the guests.
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    ugottahvbluhair My officiant did this too but we definitely knew it was a possibility he was going to read the letters. He said we should each write him an email detailing why we wanted to marry the other.
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    person and that he would use it to help him create the ceremony. He didn't specifically say he was going to read them but we knew it wasn't going to be private. I bet he reads them in the ceremony if he thinks it will go well or just takes talking points from them if not.
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    Opening-Sentence-197 I have been going to Catholic weddings my entire life. Currently attending about 4 a year. Never have I ever seen anything close to this happening.
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    scholarlyowl03 My officiant tricked us into reading our letters to each other at the ceremony. She told me my husband wanted to and she told him that I wanted to and neither of us thought to confirm it before
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    we did it. We only had about 15 people at our wedding, all close family and a couple friends so it wasn't the worst thing to happen but we definitely didn't plan on doing that and both kinda wish we'd thought to double check. Who knew a pastor would lie?
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    Fit-Confusion9293 Something similar happened at a wedding I was at. It was the minister that was blabbing things about their pasts (second marriage for both) and it was
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    completely inappropriate. They had done pre- marriage counseling and the groom had gone to the minister during his first divorce for counseling as well.
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    imtchogirl Oh my. That is an extreme violation of professional ethics for that officiant. Use a professional! There are standards.
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    madamsyntax This is honestly horrible and wildly inappropriate. If I was at this wedding I would have grabbed the mic
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    mki692280 That's what you get for having a "parent's co- worker" officiate your wedding...that is such a weird choice
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    kae0603 Why didn't they stop him and say no? I would be furious!
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    338wildcat I would have put my hand over his mic and said, these were not meant for public sharing, before as soon as he pulled them out and talked about not reading them alone.
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    But also, many people fear public speaking more than they fear death, so most likely the couple was already nervous about being in front of a crowd and just to stunned to react.
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    ParticularWindow1 Wow. How could you resist punching him?
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    amiceandalb I was a minister for 15 years and officiated many weddings. Never would it occur to me to do something so terrible.

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