Surgeon father and attorney mother refuse to pay for daughter’s college degree despite being well-off, she’s left blindsided: “Student loans make you accountable”

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Jun 23, 2025 12:00 PM EDT

In 2025, lying became a while lot harder to do. Back in the days before technology, you could go off and have a full blown affair and even another wife and kids and there'd be little evidence. Maybe a receipt or bill, but other than that it was difficult. Without the immortalization of our lives on smartphones or computers, nefarious behavior was absolutely blunt.


Not only was it easier due to technological disadvantages, but it was more socially acceptable, especially for men. These days, the cheater is always demonized, and no one romanticizes infidelity the way they used to. It's disheartening, heartbreaking, and destructive. What about misleading someone in your family that you're supposed to support and be close to? Where's the line between blatant lying, and simply withholding information?
 

In the story below, the protagonist is a girl who wants to go to a good college after high school. Due to the fact that her parents are extremely rich, she assumes they will be fronting the money for her degree. 

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    Parents dropped the bombshell they don't have anything saved for me for college cause "student loans make you accountable" AITAH for losing myself?

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    My father is a surgeon and mother is an attorney. I am a good student not perfect mostly A's with some B's my graduating
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  • It's never a good feeling to be so shocked and feel like the ground is a rug that has been taken away from you. It feels like you're in freefall, like you have nothing to rapaciously grasp onto, like you don't have ground to walk on. It hurts even more when it's from your parents. 

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    GPA if I finish next year as I have will be around 3.76 to 3.80. My parents told me they banked on me getting a full ride like they did
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    and refuse to pay for my education going forward cause they already did ao from grades elementary to high-school.
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    I don't think my grades or GPA are horrible but I know amongst my class I am no where near a top student. Solid middle of the pack.
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    Idk what I am posting this for maybe to seek validation or get some laughs.
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    Pretty sure I am cooked cause no way I would qualify for anything with my parents income. I know many top schools have great
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    needs based financial services but my parents are far above that threshold.
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    I am cooked eh? Maybe should have begged more instead of yelling.
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    Update: 3.76 is my non weighed GPA, even with my AP class I am still middle of the pack. Many kids in my school have never gotten
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    below an A. I will admit I am not a perfect student, I am an average student. I have never gotten
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    anything below a B but in my world that in itself is tantamount to failing.
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    As for the assumption they would be paying for my education, that is just generally how it is done in our circle. Parents paid for
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    undergrad and grad becomes your responsibility. College is hyper competitive now, one of my friends who graduated a two
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    years early barely got much of anything.
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    I do have a job, it is part time but somethings don't come as easy as others. Have always been great at math, chemistry, physics but the
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    other stuff has also been hard on me and generally take me longer to accomplish. I know I am mediocre, I am far from as
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    brilliant as my parents but I lost my cool and told them off because I worked hard for my GPA and all I wanted to hear
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    them say was good job. Not sh on it because it could have been better.
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    I did not ask to go to such high end schools, I begged to go public school probably would have fit in better. I don't belong
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    in the school I am in. I will be fine, I have been able to save all the money I have earned while
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    working and things will be okay. I still have a whole year to figure stuff out.
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