19-year-old boyfriend refuses to let 19-year-old girlfriend walk down the aisle with other men at friend's wedding, she catches red flags early

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Jun 24, 2025 12:00 PM EDT

These days, dating is all about red flags, warning signs, and blocking them before it's too late. Being cautious is one thing, but the current level of paranoia is a little too much for the ease of properly dating. Everyone is walking on eggshells when it comes to dating. Someone does one thing wrong, and the girls are blowing up their group chat with libels against him, slandering everything from his skull to his pinky toe, and there's nothing he can do about it. Blocking is bigger than ever, and it can come as a shock when no one even tries to communicate about it. They do say that communication is key, but in a dating world where someone would rather win the game and be right than be wrong or seem desperate, communication goes by the sidelines. 

The games of dating have become complex and intricate. If you don't appear absolutely disgusted, indifferent, or uninterested, then you're automatically cast as the obsessed or desperate one. It's not a cute look, and no one wants a narrative they don't actually fit. 

In the story below, the protagonist is young and in a relationship with a guy who might just be a walking red flag. Read the full story below for all the juicy details. 

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    Boyfriend doesn’t like that i have to walk down the isle with a grooms men

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    Ok so this is gonna be short because i'm just confused if maybe I'm not seeing his side or not. But basically me (19 female)
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  • Like one of the commenters says, they're a very young couple. As we get older, we learn what's really important. We learn to put our petty feelings aside and look at the situation from a bird's eye view. No one likes to feel jealous, and no one likes to feel like their partner is controlling them. 

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    just texted my boyfriend that my friend who's getting married sent me a picture of the groomsmen im walking down the aisle with.
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    He then asked if we were gonna link arms while walking down the aisle. He said that would be weird
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    and it's a respect thing not to do that. I responded it's my friends wedding and if that's what she wants then i'm gonna do that!
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    Because it isn't that serious at all. Is he being way too controlling or aitah for not seeing his side.
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    UPDATE: My other friend who is also a brides maid told her bf (we both got sent pictures of the guys we are walking down with as it is
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    a new trend on tik tok) And he reacted almost the same way. Her boyfriend responded "wow you're walking down the aisle with him
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    that's beautiful, might as well hold his hand too" Or something along those lines. Very sarcastic. And yep you guessed it our boyfriends are friends.
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    CoolKim75 17h ago He is being very weird. That level of jealousy would be a red flag to me. It's not like you are being asked to kiss the bloke!
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    mmichelau ⚫ 16h ago I'm going to assume he's around your age as well, so he's young and dumb. He obviously hasn't been to a
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    lot of weddings and seen that it's absolutely common. What would be weird is if
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    the groomsmen and yourself walked down side by side and not arms interlocked.
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    This level of jealousy should be a major red flag right from the start. If he's already trying to control what you
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    do (even in someone else's wedding) it's time to rethink the whole relationship
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    ThePhilV 16h ago He's being controlling as hl. It is incredibly common for bridesmaids and groomsmen to walk down
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    and if your boyfriend thinks that, then he has a lot of maturing to do. Big ol' red flag right there!
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    • Eton Rd 16h ago It sounds like you and your boyfriend don't know very much about weddings, which is fine because you're young.
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    Almost everybody in a wedding party is walking down the aisle with someone they are not in a relationship with. It's very normal.
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    Yes, your boyfriend is very controlling and it's disturbing that you don't. know that on your own.
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