16-year-old refuses to give up her spot on queen-sized bed with 5 other girls at sleepover despite their indirect insults: "The person who takes up the most space should [sleep on the floor]"

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Ely Bulnes • Writer and Editor
Jun 30, 2025 6:00 PM EDT

One of my favorite parts of my adolescence was the sleepovers. Hanging out with my best friends was the best way to unwind after a long week of pop quizzes, school projects, and general high school drama. Since I didn't necessarily have many classes with my besties – or even the same lunch period – a weekend sleepover was the only way to get the whole crew caught up. Most of the time, we completely ignored the concept of a bed time, pulling countless all-nighters with back-to-back movies, online quizzes, and tomfoolery. 

Our story today features one such high school sleepover. However, instead of trying to stay up all night, the girls in question do make an effort to go to sleep at a decent hour. When the girls realize they can't all fit in the same bed, they turn against our protagonist and try, passive aggressively, to get her to sleep on the floor instead. Now she's left wondering if these girls are even her friends at all.

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    AITA for not volunteering to sleep on the floor even though my friends were hinting that I should?

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    Last night my friends and I (all 16-17F) basically had a sleepover at one of their houses, there were five of us in total. My friend has a queen size bed I think, so it was really cramped in there with not much arm
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    or leg space. At one point everyone got tired of trying to make it work, so my friend Amanda (whose house we were sleeping at) suggested that someone sleep on the floor. She said she'll get
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    some extra pillows and blankets for that person. If I'm being honest, I know that comment was made towards me because I am on the bigger side compared to my friends. I kinda just brushed it off because although no one said "You're fat, sleep on
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    the floor" it kinda felt like they were implying that. Like soon as Amanda says someone should sleep on the floor, they all started talking about how small they were and they weren't taking up any space so it shouldn't be them.
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    I knew they expected me to say i'll sleep on the floor, but I never did. Since no one offered, eventually Amanda slept on the floor herself and acted like it wasn't a big deal. My friend Taylor said something like "you shouldn't sleep on the floor in
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    your own house, I think the person who takes up the most space should". After that we wall just laid down and there was still little comments like "its still not enough room, someone else should've gotten on the floor" and "I feel bad for Amanda".
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    Everyone did eventually go to sleep, and the topic was over. I couldn't stop thinking about it. The whole night everyone was throwing indirect insults at me and making me feel like i'm at fault for Amanda having to sleep on the floor at her own
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    Amanda having to sleep on the floor at her own house. I do understand that Im the bigger one and it would've been more spacious without me on the bed, but they were making me feel really bad. I feel like they went about it the wrong way and once Amanda got on the floor they should've let it go. AITA?
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  • Maybe this is just me, but I was raised in such a way that as the host, my guests' comfort comes first. In other words, my mom would be really upset with me if she found out that I even suggested that one of my friends sleep on the floor instead of me.

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    Bitter-Paramedic-531 NTA and who on earth would think that 5 people sharing a Queen size bed is a good idea in the first place!!! I have a king, and I wouldn't top and tail more than 3.
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    GreekAmericanDom ΝΤΑ Amanda is a poor host. Proper host etiquette is that of course she should be the one sleeping on the floor. It is her job to take care of the comfort of all her guests.
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    In truth, everyone should have slept on the floor. During sleep overs, we used to all sleep in the living. room, not someone's bedroom. People would take up floor or couch spots, and everyone brought their own sleeping bag, knowing they might sleep on the floor.
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    Amblonyx This. When I was a kid and we had sleepovers, we all usually slept on the floor in sleeping bags, host or not. I also used to have sleepovers in a tent in the backyard sometimes. On a few occasions, my best friend slept over in my double bed with me, but every group sleepover I ever went to or had involved the floor/ground.
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    No_Conversation_5661 Well, actually Amanda DID sleep on the floor and from the post, she didn't make a big deal out of it either. The other girls were guilt tripping the OP. It was just an excuse to fat shame.
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    Pandora2304 Yes but she didn't volunteer to do so immediately and waited for one of her guests to offer, that is poor ettiquette. She did eventually take the spot on the floor, but she shouldn't have even brought up that one of her guests might.
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    Live_Angle4621 I mean sure, but she is 16 and someone might actually have wanted to sleep in the floor at that age if asked
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    andmewithoutmytowel When my kids have sleepovers, they sleep in the basement on sofas, air mattresses, and camping mats. But yes, the house should have slept on the floor and not asked someone to volunteer, your friends sound mean.
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    JEMS1971 NTA What you should have done was called for a ride home. Never sit at a table where the second you get up they talk about you. Know your worth. It may
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    be lonely but it's worth it to find real friends who won't behave this way. It is Amanda's house, she is the host, it's her job to make her guests feel comfortable and wanted. This is BS, find new friends asap
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  • I know that if my HS friends and I were in this situation, we'd all just agree to sleep on the floor instead of making one person the odd one out.

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    myironlions Exactly. OP these are not your friends. These young women are perhaps still growing into who they will be, so here's hoping that their maturity doesn't remain as wisp-thin as their waistlines.
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    The RealBaby Pop I think you should find new friends
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    MinaMoves NTA they weaponized politeness to shame you, then guilt-tripped you when you didn't fold. You're not responsible for their cowardice to be direct or their passive aggressive way of singling you out without saying your name.
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    Flaky Philosopher563 NTA. Sleeping arrangements should have been planned and discussed beforehand. I would never invite people over to my home (even as a child or teenager) and expect anyone to sleep on the floor.
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    Slaator The only scenario—in a sane and normal world-in which a queen-size bed is the only bed available for a sleepover involving five guests is if three of them inexplicably showed up uninvited.
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    Even five skinny CHILDREN would be significantly uncomfortable packed into a queen-size bed, and have to practically lie perfectly still all night, like mummies in a crypt, in order to get any sleep/avoid falling out of bed.
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    LavishnessGeneral NTA From what little you've said, those aren't friends either.
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    AshnZan I'm sorry to say this, but these people are not your friends. Either call them out for their horrible comments and see if they change their ways, or find another friend group. I know that is really, really hard.
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