Mother-in-law laughs in 25-year-old daughter-in-law's face about the home being dirty despite her cleaning for hours everyday, she flares up at husband for not speaking up for her: "I feel like a ghost maid"

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    AITAH for Asking My Husband to Acknowledge Everything I Do?

    "It's about time you start keeping the place tidy"
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    So here's what went down. I'm 25. He's 26. We've been married for a couple years now. We live in a small apartment in a city that's honestly too expensive for how
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    much it s ks. I work part time while studying online, and he works full time. But somehow... I still do everything at home. Like,
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    everything. Cooking. Dishes. Laundry. Trash. Grocery runs. Cleaning his nasty beard trimmings off the sink. Scrubbing the microwave after his spaghetti
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    exploded. I even remind him to bills because pay his mom's somehow that's my job now too. And no, I don't expect a parade.
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    I'm not asking for roses every time I mop the floor. But a "thanks" wouldn't kill him, right? Or even just... acting like he notices? The thing is, he doesn't.
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    Like, at all. He just comes home, plops on the couch, and acts like the place magically cleans itself. If I say something like, “Hey, I reorganized the kitchen today," he barely looks up from his phone.
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    Like, okay. Cool. Guess that didn't matter. It's not like I haven't brought it up. I told him calmly. that I feel invisible. I told him it really messes with me, feeling like
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    my effort means nothing. And you know what he said? "You're overthinking. It's not a big deal." Oh. Okay. So the hours I spend trying to keep our life running...
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    not a big deal. Got it. But here's the real kicker. The other day, his mom was over. I'd been cleaning since 7am because she always finds something to comment on.
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    She walks in, looks around, then says, "It's about time you started keeping the place tidy." I just stood there like what? Are you kidding me? My husband? Said
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    nothing. Just laughed. Like that crop was funny. Like I didn't just spend five hours bleaching grout for this woman. I lost it. Not yelling or throwing stuff, just firm.
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    I told him, "I need you to start appreciating the work I put in. Because I'm drowning here. And the least you could do is not laugh when someone disrespects me in our own home." He rolled his eyes. Rolled his uain eyes.
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    Now he's been distant. Like I'm the problem. Like I created drama for no reason. His mom? Still acting like she's queen of the castle. And me? I feel like a maid. A ghost maid. So yeah... I
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    asked my husband to acknowledge what I do around here. I asked him not to laugh when people treat me like cr p. That's it. AITAH?
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    Turbulent_Ebb5669 • 20h ago Well now you know how it's going to be. The question is, is this what you want? Because I don't see anything's going to change.
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    hayls88 20h ago NTA, only clean up after yourself, wash your clothes only. Let him see how much you actually do by leaving his stuff pile up! Cook only
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    for yourself too. Yes he works full time but you work part time and study and still manage to get everything done! Don't feel bad for not cooking and cleaning for him, let him learn!
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    sinprettylaw ⚫20h ago You're absolutely not the ah le wanting basic respect and appreciation for keeping your shared life functioning is the bare minimum, not some unreasonable demand.
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    PhillyDilly Dee ⚫20h ago Youre 25. Imagine dealing with this for 50 more years. I met my perfect partner when i was in my mid 30s. Just sayin...
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    Various-Ocelot-2209 • 20h ago NTA but is appreciation really all you need? Are you fine with him being a lazy slob and you doing everything in the household, as long as he sees it?

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