Girl moves out of apartment when steals her room during study abroad program, she gets a random sublet to live there in retaliation and moves out: “They’re upset because I didn’t approve it with them”

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Jul 18, 2025 2:00 PM EDT

Welcome back ladies and gentlemen of the internet. Living with other people is beyond arduous. There are endless problems that can go wrong with roommates. You can feel tension with them for being messy, being mean, or maybe they're too clean. Some people are just not meant to live with others, but they don't know it at the time. I've definitely lived with my fair stare if awful roommates, and when you don't feel comfortable going home it can ruin your whole quality of life. 


Trust is the predication of any healthy relationship, and without it, the relationship can't progress and mature, nor is it a safe one. It doesn't have to be a boyfriend cheating, a parent lying, or a friend going behind your back for something. Betrayal is betrayal. 


In the story below, the protagonist leaves for her study abroad program, and during that time, her roommate betrays her. Read the full story below for all the juicy details.

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    Aitah for moving out of my house because my Roomate took my room while I was studying abroad

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    We have three upstairs rooms, one downstairs. My Roomate was in the downstairs room. When I got a subletter, my Roomates. requested that my downstairs.
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  • This roommate just completely betrayed the protagonist, and it's not okay. When we're young, we do things to people without thinking of the karmic consequences. It's easy to just do something in the moment, but when her roommate comes back she has to deal with a bigger headache. 

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    roommate move into my room while I was gone, and the subletter could take the downstairs room. Months later, I find out after asking her that she
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    refused to give my room back, going on to give reasons why I didn't deserve the room. We talked about it, I told her how upset I was, especially
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    considering this was not what we agreed upon, but she said we didn't have an official agreement. I told her if she wasn't going to give me my room back, I was going to find a different place to
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    live. When I texted them all to say I was probably going to move out, none of them responded to me. I went and got a subletter, now all of them are upset at me
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    because I did not approve it with them. Now, they are not speaking to me, but these were some of my close friends. As per usual, I feel like I'm in the wrong, and I'm
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    really trying to see it from their side. This is like the one time that I fully decided to stand up for myself.
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    SmileJB 12h ago Nta. You had an agreement. She is backpedaling saying it wasn't official. If it's not official, you can officially move out.
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    kikumori • 12h ago you left your room, not your identity and she stole your space, disrespected your boundaries and gaslit you when you stood up for yourself, good for you.
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    avid-learner-bot • 12h ago NTA. You stood up for yourself when she didn't respect your space, good on you! I once lost a friend who pulled a similar stunt, it stings but hey, better they show their true colors now.
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    Sweetcilantro 12h ago nta You didn't approve of not getting your room back, they can't complain about approval.
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    spiderwarrior92 • 10h ago Nta, They aint your friend, they're are bunch of not so nice word
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    MissMurderpants • 10h ago NTA They started the not communicating this. Just ignore them and move on in life.
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    Extra-Interaction1 • 9h ago Now you see, they weren't really your friends shake the dust off and go live your best life
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    Laugh136 .7h ago "As per usual, I feel like I'm in the wrong"
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    This line jumped out at me, makes it sound like this is a frequent dynamic in your interactions with these friends. Do they often turn disagreements around to make you the bad guy?
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    BubblyLilBunny • 10h ago NTA. Move far away from such people who don't respect your space or boundaries. What official
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    agreement was she expecting? There was no official agreement for her to take your room. Speaking of, are the rooms
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    linked to corresponding roommates in your official rental agreement? If so, at least that is something official.
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