37-year-old birthday girl bans vegetarian food from her party, refuses to let sister order herself pizza without meat, driving her to skip the celebration: "She needs to let me live how I like"

Author image for Ely Bulnes
Ely Bulnes • Writer and Editor
Jul 18, 2025 6:00 PM EDT

Being a vegetarian is unbelievably easy these days. There are options for us veggie munchers at just about every reataurant — perhaps barring a handful of Steakhouses or super authentic East Asian places that put fish sauce or shrimp paste in everything. I've been a vegetarian since I was 13 years old, and I was strictly vegan for half a decade, too. The hardest thing about avoiding meat isn't the temptation of the smell of a good BBQ, nor is it the lack of options at restaurants — it's meat-obsessed family members and friends that cannot wrap their mind around vegetarianism or the suggestion that someone lives their life differently. 
In our story today, a 37-year-old is determined to make her sister go hungry on her birthday. You see, she plans on ordering only meat-topped pizzas for her party. Her sister, unfazed, offers to bring her own cheese-only pizza, but she is forbidden by her draconian sis. Scroll down to see how this all plays out.

Advertisement
  • 01

    AITAH for not coming to my sister's birthday party because she wouldn't allow vegetarian food at her party?

    Cheezburger Image 10531279616
    via Yan Krukau from Pexels

    This image is for illustration only, and the subjects are models; the image does not depict the actual subjects of the story.

  • 02
    For context, I have been vegetarian my whole life. My mom says ever since the very first time they tried to feed me meat when I
    via u/MissHissss
  • 03
    was 1 I've been refusing to eat it. They thought I'd grow out of it but I never did. The rest of my family has always eaten meat.
    via u/MissHissss
  • 04
    Cheezburger Image 10531279872
    via NYS444 from Getty Images

    This image is for illustration only, and the subjects are models; the image does not depict the actual subjects of the story.

  • 05
    My sister was having a pizza party to celebrate her birthday (37). I asked what pizzas they were ordering and she listed off
    via u/MissHissss
  • 06
    a bunch of meat ones. I was like "okay no problem, I'll just order my own". She said no, she doesn't like vegetarian pizza. I told her
    via u/MissHissss
  • 07
    that I don't eat meat (something she knows very well since she's older than me and has literally known me my whole life) and if there
    via u/MissHissss
  • 08
    aren't any meat-free pizzas I won't have anything to eat. She said it's her birthday so she gets to pick the food.
    via u/MissHissss
  • 09
    Cheezburger Image 10531280128
    via pixelfit from Getty Images Signature

    This image is for illustration only, and the subjects are models; the image does not depict the actual subjects of the story.

  • 10
    I was like fine, whatever, it's not worth fighting over, I'll just eat salad and sides. She said they weren't getting any because
    via u/MissHissss
  • 11
    she only wants pizza. So I said I'd just bring something else for me to eat. That wasn't okay with her, because it's a PIZZA party. At
    via u/MissHissss
  • 12
    this point I had enough so I just told her I hope she has a lovely birthday party and I'll see her at our parents place in two weeks for
    via u/MissHissss
  • 13
    the bbq they're having. I didn't go to her party and now she's mad.
    via u/MissHissss

  • Also, just because people eat meat doesn't mean that they want the meat pizza. It just makes sense to have some variety!

  • 14
    The thing is, my sister and I have a long history of clashing. She has a very set idea on how people should be and I don't fit that
    via u/MissHissss
  • 15
    template in many ways. I tell her that she can live how she likes and I won't comment but she needs to let me live how I like
    via u/MissHissss
  • 16
    without comment. She doesn't have to agree but she has to accept that it's my choice and it doesn't affect her in any way
    via u/MissHissss
  • 17
    (I'm not like a murderer or anything, I'm talking more like she doesn't approve of how I decorate my house, or that I don't want a
    via u/MissHissss
  • 18
    promotion at work because I'm happy in my position. Things like that).
    via u/MissHissss
  • 19
    Cheezburger Image 10531280640
    via nortonrsx from Getty Images

    This image is for illustration only, and the subjects are models; the image does not depict the actual subjects of the story.

  • 20
    So anyways, this fight is about more than pizza, it's about me choosing to be something she doesn't think I should be and
    via u/MissHissss
  • 21
    her trying to force my hand. I decided a few years ago that I wasn't going to engage when she's like that, and my brother agrees
    via u/MissHissss
  • 22
    and thinks our sister was being ridiculous and passive aggressive, but my parents think I should have just kept the peace since
    via u/MissHissss
  • 23
    it was her "special day" and come to the party then just eaten in the way home. AITAH?
    via u/MissHissss

  • Oh no! Our protagonist ruined her sister's fun by not allowing herself to be tortured for her amusement!

  • 24
    ParticularPath7791 Your sister is the AH. You offered to order your own pizza, eat a salad or even bring your own food. Your sister is being difficult.
    via u/ParticularPath7791
  • 25
    Your sister is the AH and your parents indulging in her bratty behavior also makes them Aholes as well.
    via u/ParticularPath7791
  • 26
    Used Clock_4627 The sister thinks it's 'her way or the highway' but failed to realize that the 'highway' is the better option because it takes you away from the drama llama acting like a toddler......
    via u/Used_Clock_4627
  • 27
    Zscalerrguy No, she intentionally made it so YOU could not attend.
    via u/Zscalerrguy
  • 28
    Little-Martha31204 NTA. Has she never heard of a cheese pizza? It's pretty much a staple at any/all pizza parties. She's 37 years old and acting like a petulant child in this instance.
    via u/Little-Martha31204
  • 29
    UnSleeping Moss How does she have friends? Because this is how you don't have any.
    via u/UnSleepingMoss
  • 30
    MissHissss OP She has a very carefully curated "public persona" that is different from how she is with her family
    via u/MissHissss
  • 31
    nw826 So next time something like this happens, ask her for a vegetarian option or to bring your own meal publicly - put a social media post that everyone can see. Then hopefully she'll be nicer since it's public.
    via u/nw826
  • 32
    But honestly, I'd just tell your family you're done with her. You'll see her and be polite when you're both at the same functions but you won't be going to anything FOR her again.
    via u/nw826

Tags

family drama vegetables adulting sisters siblings family feud favoritism parenting entitled family vegan sister vegetarian parents entitled people meat
Scroll Down For The Next Article