29-year-old sister closes door on brother and his pregnant wife when they demand to stay in her home office "for a few months," parents guilt-trip her but refuse to offer their own home: "It's my workspace and livelihood"

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Ely Bulnes • Writer and Editor
Jun 22, 2025 6:00 PM EDT

Working from home isn't always a walk in the park. Or sometimes it is a walk in the park that lasts a little too long, and then suddenly, you realize that you've been off-task for hours after a side quest that was supposed to help you focus better. At my job, whose fruit you lovely readers get to indulge in, I get to work from home once a week. My friends foolishly assume that this is the best day to make plans with me, not realizing that it actually takes a lot more brain power and effort for me to focus at home than at the office. On top of that, it's the only day I have to get important errands done!

In our story today, a young woman with a remote job refuses to house her brother and pregnant wife. Wishing to maintain a work environment free from distractions, she graciously offers a compromise. Instead, little bro runs crying to mom and dad. 

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    AITA for refusing to give my brother and his pregnant wife my spare bedroom?

    "I can't sacrifice my work and privacy."
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    So I (29F) own a small 2-bedroom house. I live alone, and the second bedroom is my office. I work remotely full-time and also run a small side business from home. That room is crucial for both.
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    My younger brother (26M) and his wife (24F) are expecting a baby in October. They've been struggling financially and asked if they could move
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    in with me just for a few months after the baby is born to save for a place of their own. They said they'd take the spare room and I could work from the kitchen or living room.
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    I told them no. I said I love them and want to help, but I can't sacrifice my work and privacy. This isn't just a guest room; it's my workspace and livelihood.
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    I offered to help them look for a subsidized place or even contribute to the first month's rent somewhere else, but I wasn't going to have a newborn and two extra adults in my house indefinitely.
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    They were upset. My brother said I was being selfish and that family is supposed to help when it matters most. Now my parents are involved, and they think I should do the right thing since I have the space and don't have kids or a husband to worry about.
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    Now I'm getting guilt-tripped by half my family, but the truth is I value my peace and independence. I've worked hard to build this life, and it's not fair to throw it into chaos. AITA for saying no?
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  • With parents like that, it really is no wonder that her little brother feels so entitled to her space!

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    No_Jaguar67 Just lean into what they said, "I'm selfish so no." That is all. NTA
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    AZDoorDasher A better response is "Mom & Dad, your son and daughter-in-law can live with you.!"
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    DonkeyKong694NE1 I'm guessing OP's bro has been getting coddled like this his whole life and that's why he's now expecting a kid he can't afford
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    Bettersibling20 Sometimes when they try to guilt trip, they make it so easy with these oxymorons lol.
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    LadybugGal95 As I've told my kids, if I'm going to be accused/ blamed for doing something anyway, I'm well going to enjoy doing that thing.
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    1quirky1 Might as well do crime if you're going to do the time.
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    thinksying A new born is a hard no for a two bedroom when you work from home. How can you work in the kitchen when they are going to need to leave the bedroom while you work?
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    Max _ H And a few months is never a few months. Nobody is saving money with a newborn baby.
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    Guilty-Tie164 Well, to be fair, I'm pretty sure they are going to expect her to babysit every day since she works from home.
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    Fresh-Scallion602 And buy all the food, do the dishes, laundry, esp. with a newborn! Bottles, diapers, just the beginning!! Say NO NOW, and it's NOT up for negotiation!!
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  • Not only are they looking for free housing; they are looking for free childcare, too!

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    Jenk1972 NTA But your family is. Why can't they stay with your parents? Or your sister in laws parents? You can't be the only family member they can turn to
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    Neat-Thought-9414 NTA. You work from home, period. Your brother should move into your parents' place.
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    Outraged Pineapple NTA. Their failure to plan properly and handle their own financial situation, and decide to have a baby on top of that when they're already struggling, is THEIR choice and THEIR problem. You know it wouldn't be
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    'just for a few months', it'd become permanent because 'well they really need the house, you can move out to an apartment or something can't you? You don't have a kid, you don't need the space' while they take over more and more of your home.
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    Plus, if you work from home, especially because you're a woman, I'd bet dollars to donuts that they're going to expect you to be a free babysitter/nanny for them whenever they want. It's not like you have a
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    REAL job sis, you're just puttering around on the computer, you can watch the baby for a bit can't you? Being a parent is just SO HARD, we need a break! And off they skip, leaving you holding the bag and the baby.
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    Absolutely not. Protect your home and your peace. Their failure to think ahead is not your problem.
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