Delusional mom demands that friend pick her 1-year-old baby to be the flower girl at her wedding, she refuses and chooses 7-year-old girl instead: "One year old is pretty young to be walking down the aisle"

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Ely Bulnes • Writer and Editor
Jul 23, 2025 5:00 PM EDT

It's astonishing, but some people have truly never interacted with a baby at any point in their adult life. Their friends and relatives don't have kids, they never babysat for extra cash as a teen, and the few tantrums from overstimulated toddlers they've witnessed at malls have completely put them off from approaching any babies in the near future. It's these very same people that cannot help but spout completely usless parenting advice that they have gleaned from TikToks or from their own imagination where they parent a perfectly quiet and emotionless infant. 
In our story today, a new mom demands that her 1-year-old be made flower girl at her friend's wedding. This leads us all to wonder if this lady fully grasps what being a flower girl entails, and whether or not she has parented her infant enough to know that a literal baby couldn't possibly be expected to have such a responsibility. 

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    AITA for not asking my friends daughter to be my flower girl?

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    Hey Reddit, I need some perspective on something that happened recently. My partner and I celebrated our engagement with a small gathering of
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    friends, and one of our couple friends' daughter (7y/o) is going to be our flower girl because she loves both me and my partner dearly.
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    When we were all sitting around enjoying the party another friend of ours, who also has a daughter (1y/o) (but one who isn't close to my
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    partner), asked me in front of everyone if her daughter could also be the flower girl. I felt like this was more out of envy than a genuine request because she probably felt left out.
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    I didn't respond to her question right away, because I felt it was an inappropriate thing to ask in front of the group, especially when we'd
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    already made our decision, and not something I feel you ask someone. I feel like it was really r de and inconsiderate to spring that question on me like that.
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    Since the engagement party, she asked me to meet one-on-one, and I'm guessing she's going to bring up her jealousy (displayed as being
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    upset that she feels left out of the friend group) and probably the flower girl situation again. I'm just not sure how to handle it without it turning into
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    an argument, and I don't want to come off as ride, but at the same time, it's hard to ignore how inappropriate I think her behavior
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    was. I'm literally dreading meeting up with her because I do not think her daughter should be flower girl and cannot imagine how awkward this is going to be if I say no.
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    of my wedding photos with an emoji over the kids face is not how I want my photos to look. I also feel a one year old is pretty f walking down the aisle young to be
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  • I'd be surprised if baby can even walk down the aisle – she'd probably have to crawl or be carried. Ohh, I get it. That exactly what mom wants/

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    of my wedding photos with an emoji over the kids face is not how I want my photos to look. I also feel a one year old is pretty f walking down the aisle young to be
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    So, Reddit, am I the a hole for feeling frustrated and angry about the flower girl situation and her general jealousy? Or am I leaving her out and should let her daughter be a flower girl?
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    Amethyst-talon91 A 1 yr old is too young for that responsibility, even a very smart 1 yr old. They will more than likely get overwhelmed and throw a fit, or forget
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    what they're supposed to do. The added aspect of you having to change your wedding to be respectful of her no pictures online rule is another headache. Just tell her the baby is too young.
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    TrifleMeNot mommy gets to wear a pretty dress and carry her baby flower girl down the aisle. Mommy wants some attention. Tell mommy to take a hike instead.
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    mummagun You have two very valid reasons to not include her her age and social media stance. -
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    If you want to preserve the friendship focus on those reasons. But if someone tried to buy me into making their kid a flowergirl I'd question my friendship.
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    Optimal-University32 You can say you were surprised by her request at your party. "You caught me off guard. The wedding party is something that (grooms name) and I will choose."
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    NotNormally Here This is the answer. There is absolutely no need for OP to give a reason. This is an extremely inappropriate thing to even ask.
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    CrabbiestAsp NTA. 'Hi, I appreciate the offer to have your little one as our flower girl, however we have already chosen a flower girl'.
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    Honestly, having a 1 yo as a flower girl sounds cute but it could go sideways quickly.
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    squirrelsareevil2479 This is the correct answer. "we have already chosen". It doesn't reject her daughter or make excuses, it shuts the conversation down politely.
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  • There's nothing she can do if the role is already filled! 

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    IHaveBoxerDogs NTA. If you don't want to meet up with her (I wouldn't), just text and ask, "Is this about Daughter being flower girl?" If she says yes, text her then
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    EDIT: Thank you guys all so so much for your input. I did not at all expect this post to get so much attention so I'm sorry I can't get back to you all.
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    It's been really nice to see all of your thoughts and confirm that I am not being unreasonable here. I'm super
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    excited for our wedding and this has put a real stress on me and tarnished my early excitement so to know this kind of behaviour is indeed unfair,
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    makes me feel a little more at ease. I'm not sure when we will meet but I will keep you posted on how it goes!!
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