Entitled friend plans a last-minute wedding on a weekday, then throws a tantrum when her best friend's husband can't get PTO: 'It’s happening in only 8 weeks'

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Jesse Kessenheimer • Writer and Editor
Jul 25, 2025 7:00 PM EDT

Brides think that everyone is supposed to just bend over backwards for their wedding day. Sure, it's a big deal to get married, but if your "Big Day" falls on a weekday, expect the employed populous from your guest list to be secretly cursing your nuptials. Apparently, this bride wasn't so accommodating or understanding with her guests after planning a last-minute wedding with 8 weeks' notice, because she was furious when she found out her best friend's husband wouldn't be attending. She wanted him to risk his career for the sake of her weekday wedding, all because she had forgotten what it's like to be employed, ask for PTO, and get denied…

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  • AITA for not making my husband attend my best friend's weekday wedding when he can't get time off work?
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  • My (30sF) best friend of about 3 years just booked her wedding this week — and it's happening in only 8 weeks' time. The wedding is on a weekday. I'm really happy for her and absolutely plan to attend, but there's an issue with my husband (40sM) being able to come.
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  • He works Monday to Friday in a full-time role. He's already used all his annual leave this year - mostly for two family holidays and to support me with childcare when I returned to work after maternity leave with our youngest. He used
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  • that time so we could avoid putting our baby into full-time daycare immediately, and it was a big help during a stressful transition. He tried to get unpaid leave to attend the wedding, but his workplace
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  • (which is generally super accommodating) wasn't able to approve it this time. If it were for a family emergency or something related to our kids, they'd likely make it work, but understandably they do have policies to follow.
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  • We Americans only get 10 days of PTO every year. The European mind can hardly comprehend it, but at most of our jobs, that's the national standard for vacation time. If you've spent any length of time in the workforce, you know that those PTO days are precious and must be used wisely, so when this new father used up all of his vacation time, PTO, leave, and sick days to help his wife with their newborn, they cashed out of their entire supply of paid leave. And when this new mom's bestie decided to throw a last-minute wedding, there was nothing left. 

    Too bad, and too late, Sweetie—nobody wants to go to your Wednesday wedding anyway!

  • When I told my friend that he wouldn't be able to come, she was really disappointed and seemed to expect that he should still make it happen as in, just go anyway, even though he's not allowed the
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  • time off. I tried to gently explain the situation, but she keeps bringing it up and implying that he should make more of an effort. I totally get that it's a special day and she wants our support, but it
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  • feels unfair to expect someone to risk their job or income over it. My husband would absolutely be there if he could. So, AITA for not pushing him to attend or for not making it a bigger deal with his job?
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  • Full_Pace7666 · Why does your best friend care so much about your husband attending? That's a little weird. NTA though. If his workplace didn't approve the time off, that's that. If anything it would be overstepping for you to get involved in that.
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  • ladyblackbelt2. Lol. No. NTA! She booked on a weekday with short notice for people. She can't see her expectations too high.
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  • Crafty_Special_7052. NTA I mean she set her wedding to happen during the week when most people work. She's gunna have to expect not everyone will be able to get the time off and will miss her wedding. Maybe she should have booked it for the weekend.
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  • fenet21856 No! Your "friend" is a big AH if she insists that your husband risk his employment just for her wedding. Tell her you will be there to support her, and husband will go to work to support his family. If this is not satisfactory then let her know you won't be there either.
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  • Psychological Tie9629. Of course not. Your friend is incredibly inconsiderate - not only expecting people to come to a wedding with 2 months' notice, but a weekday wedding on top of that. The world doesn't revolve around her, not
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  • even on her wedding day. She can't realistically expect everyone that she's tangentially related to to be able to just drop everything for her. It's not fair to expect your husband to potentially jeopardize his career in order to attend her poorly-timed
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  • wedding. I expect she's going to have a lot of people declining for this. Tell your friend that next time she gets married, she needs to give people a bigger heads up, especially if it's during a weekday. NTA.
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  • Used Clock_4627. Remind your yahoo 'friend' that HER Special Day is just that, special to only HER(and the groom. Hopefully). She's not asking you for 'support', she's asking you for adoration. They are NOT the same. Tell her to grow TF UP! NTA, even a little.
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  • I-said-ur-stupid ⚫ Stop worrying about what she says... he can't get the time off and thats final. She probably is finding many arent coming for the same reason and she's getting sensitive about it.. dont take it to heart...
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