28-year-old girlfriend insists her 30-year-old boyfriend pay off her $9K of credit card debt, refuses to move in with him if he refuses to pay: 'I don’t think it’s fair to expect me to take on someone else’s financial mess'

There are a lot of couples who act as if they're married when they're not. They buy houses together, raise children together, and combine their incomes and take on the financial responsibility of the other. That works for a lot of people, and I certainly don't wish to knock something that isn't doing a couple any harm. I do think it can be a red flag when one partner wants to do a married couple thing when they're merely boyfriend and girlfriend. Nobody would bat an eye at a husband and wife duo working together to pay off their student loans as a team, but a boyfriend demanding that his girlfriend help him pay off the personal loan that he took out without her knowledge is pretty suspicious. There is nothing legal keeping them together, so what's stopping him from leaving her the second the last payment goes through? Absolutely nothing.

The boyfriend in this story wants to move in with his girlfriend, but she won't do it unless he pays off her $9K in credit card debt. That's certainly a red flag, especially since he had no idea that this debt was even a problem for her to begin with.
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AITAH for refusing to help my girlfriend pay off her credit card debt before we move in?

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