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ITAH for making my gf pay her half of rent?
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You know, and this may be a hot take, but I don't think there is anything wrong with wanting the man to pay for everything. The problem here is that she manipulated him from the start, making him think that this would be an equal partnership when she actually wanted a completely different arrangement. I see no honesty, respect, or communication here.
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She said she would eventually contribute! If she had been honest from the start about her expectations, then she maybe could have found a guy that wants to be the breadwinner without wasting this guy's time.
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24-year-old boyfriend demands that 22-year-old girlfriend start paying her half of rent, she refuses despite having a well-paying job: 'I supported her when she needed it, but now she's on her feet; she just doesn't want to contribute'
Money is one of those things that can slowly destroy a relationship when there is no communication around it. You can love someone with your whole heart, but when only one person is carrying the weight of rent and bills, resentment starts to creep in. It isn't even really about the money itself, it's about fairness, effort, and whether or not you both see the relationship as an equal partnership.
Now, every couple has a different way of distributing their financial responsibility. Some couples split everything down the middle and Venmo each other for the smallest of purchases. Others split things up based on who makes more money; others simply pool their money together. There really is no right or wrong way to go about it as long as everyone is communicating because when one partner feels like they're being taken advantage of, things start to go sideways quickly.
That's exactly what's going on with one 24-year-old. When he and his girlfriend first moved in together, she was between jobs, so he told her not to worry about rent until she got back on her feet. Months later, she's working full time and making decent money, but she hasn't actually paid a dime towards housing. When he finally confronted her, telling her that it was time to split the rent, she lashed out, called him greedy, and even told her friends that he was a cheapskate despite quite literally funding her lifestyle for the better part of a year!