Woman Wants To Wear White Dress To Wedding, Husband Shuts Her Down

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May 16, 2021 8:00 PM EDT

We're not sure what compels someone to insist on wearing a white dress to a wedding that they're attending as a guest. It oftentimes reads like a blatant disregard for the actual bride's big day. Honestly, good on the husband in this scenario for shutting his wife down when it came to the reckless white dress idea. Naturally, someone who is already lost is going to fall into the defensive when they're called out for their insensitive behavior. 

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    Font - AITA For Asking my wife to change the dress she was going to wear at my uncle's wedding?? Not the A-hole Basically the title but here's some context: So, My (M27) uncle got married a couple of weeks ago. He's the youngest of four and he's 4 years older than me and for that we're super close. However, my wife has not been on good terms with my uncle's wife but overall they're cordial with each other. 3 weeks prior to the wedding She purchased a white dress which was similar to a wedding dr
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    Font - While we were getting ready to go, she walked out the bedroom wearing the white dress I saw weeks ago. I told her to wait and asked why she was wearing the white dress and not the yellow one?!. She said she gave it to her sister since it's her style and couldn't say no cause her sister begged her to borrow it for her trip. Explaind that the white dress looked better and felt more comfortable so no problem. I said of course we had a problem! wearing white to a wedding when she's not the br
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    Font - Eventually, I asked her to change the dress and wear something else, Something more appropriate but she turned this into a huge argument about me treating her selfishly and basically choosing my uncle and his wife's feelings over hers because I told her I don't want this to affect my relationship with my uncle. She got all stubborn and refused saying she either keep the dress or not go. She chose to stay. I went to the wedding without her and I wasn't happy. Since then she's been giving m
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    Font - FrnchsLwyr • 19h · Colo-rectal Surgeon [37] 1 Award Your wife is an AH and she knows it. She also knows that wearing white to another woman's wedding is not only wrong, but a clear attempt to stand up the bride and steal her moment. (assuming, of course, the wedding is in a culture where the bride wears a white dress and nobody else does...which I assume we're talking about here.) More - your wife tried a power play and lost. That's going to be a problem for a long time b/c you chose your
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    Font - NTA - Your wife was being unbelievably selfish. Does she really not understand how rude it is to wear white at a wedding when you're not the bride? G Reply 4 2.5k 3 ...
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    Smile - NTA. She was being incredibly rude. This isn't a matter of prioritizing feelings, this is a matter of not standing by while someone is being an A. You are not required to prioritize your spouse's hateful feelings and actions just because you're married to her. G Reply 4 1.5k 3 ...
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    Font - rosejoyo • 18h NTA your wife is a mean girl. Thank you for being a great man. G Reply 4 102 3 ...
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    Font - You need to get your wife to post on here! She'll get ripped apart in no time and then you're not the bad guy anymore. NTA G Reply 778 ...
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    Smile - NTA your wife did that on purpose and she's being manipulative trying to tell you otherwise. You are not in the wrong for telling her to change. EVERYONE knows you don't wear white to a wedding. G Reply 4 56 3
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    Font - NTA, at all. but all she says now is I chose my uncle and his wife's feelings over hers No, you chose to follow a well-accepted, social custom that is practically universally known, over her selfish ignorance (if we're giving her the benefit of the doubt) or maliciousness (if we're not). And this would not just have affected your uncle (that you "chose" over her), it would have affected his wife (obviously) but would have drawn side-eyes from everyone else there too. G Reply 1 206 3 ...
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    Font - NTA it is inappropriate to wear a white dress to a wedding unless you are told to. G Reply 4 42 3 ...
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    Organism - Water_Lilly_A • 19h NTA She probably just mad that you were paying that much attention and it was her plan all along. Also, even if you did put your uncle's feelings before hers, it's his wedding day and you guys are close. I'm sure she would stop someone from doing that at her sister's wedding. G Reply 42 3 ...
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    Rectangle - NTA. This isn't about her feelings v. theirs. This is about her intention to antagonize your uncle and his wife and your desire to protect them, on a day which is important to them, over allowing your wife to do so. G Reply 167 3
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    Font - NTA. Does your wife often act like this? It doesn't seem to be an attractive personality trait. G Reply 4 33 3 ...
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    Font - NTA. She wanted to start drama. And she wanted you to choose her over your family. She sounds like shes trying to manipulate you into making her a higher priority than anything/one else in your life. I would maybe reconsider marrying someone that was more than willing to cause a possible rift between you and your family... G Reply & 273 ...
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    Organism - Forward_Squirrel8879 · 19h NTA - Your wife knew what she was doing would cause unnecessary drama. She was 100% in the wrong. Supporting your spouse does not mean you have to back them in every wrong decision - especially decisions that are maliciously and purposefully wrong. G Reply 1 36 3 ...
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    Font - NTA Never wear a predominantly white dress to a wedding. G Reply 4 24 3 ...
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    Font - kk112345 · 18h NTA. Show your wife this post to show her how horribly wrong she is. Trying to ruin someone's wedding day isn't right. G Reply 4 16 3 ...
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    Font - seba_make · 17h • Partassipant [1] NTA she totally did it on purpose. She's knows it. She's jealous of his fiancé. G Reply ...
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    Font - everylastlight · 17h • Partassipant [2] NTA. Is your wife normally this self-centered and desperate for attention? G Reply ...
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