It's the third week in a row that you're by yourself, on your knees in the kitchen, using the vacuum extension to get to that awkward, dusty area behind the cabinet. For months, your partner has agreed to clean 'next week,' but the next week never comes as he manages to weasel his way out of it yet again. You've seen a recent trend online where women 'match the energy' of their partner. In other words, they put in the same amount of effort as their partners do. Sometimes, despite communication, people don't quite understand why an action (or lack of action) is inconsiderate. By treating them the same way as they treat you, essentially holding a mirror to their behavior, they may begin to see the error of their ways and start meeting you half way. In this Reddit thread, women detail their results of matching energy to varying levels of success.
For many, matching energy led to break up and divorce. When their partner either didn't notice-- or worse, noticed but didn't care-- many women came to the realization that they deserved better (or at least someone with more similar priorities) and ended things. In other cases, partners understood the message, and began to compensate for the sudden lack. Some women found that matching energy worked because they realized that they had actually been putting energy into things neither they nor their partners really cared about. Turns out that some couples had spent years performing certain tasks in the relationship due to social pressure and perceived obligation, and after recognizing that neither actually put to much value on those tasks, the relationship was able to heal. What are your thoughts on matching energy? Is it petty, or does it have its place in the right context?
