Bride and groom disparage friend's 3-year marriage by failing to invite her husband to the wedding, couple guilt-trips her when she declines: "Expecting a guest to travel to a destination wedding without a partner is outrageous."

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    Decline Invitation: Spouse Not Invited to Wedding

    "We never considered splitting couples and only inviting one spouse"
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    One of my friends is getting married and only addressed and invited me to her wedding. Me and my husband have been married for 3 years and she is well aware of that. I had only just met her at the time of my wedding and my guest list/RSVP's had
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    already been confirmed by that time. Me and my husband had a fairly small wedding, but we never considered splitting couples and only inviting one.
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    Fina RSVP PLEASE RESPOND BY JANUARY 31 M O JOYFULLY AC FC CINES
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    I did text her to confirm and the invite was only addressed to me instead of the household (To Mr & Mrs)
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    For further context she has been introduced to my husband and has met him a few times and has been to our home and there has been no conflict or negative history.
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    I have politely declined the invitation because I feel weird/uncomfortable attending a formal event, such as a wedding, alone without my spouse. I have
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    stated that we will, of course, still support her and contribute to her registry (monetary). When she brought up my declined RSVP, I politely explained why, and she just responded that she was hurt by my decision not to attend.
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    I completely understand that weddings are expensive and may have a limited guest count. At the end of the day it is their wedding, but I
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    personally feel like it is improper to only invite one person in a married couple, especially to a wedding. Am I wrong to feel this way? I truly hope my decision. not to attend does not strain our friendship.
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    KelsarLabs It's so weird that people think it's okay to do this and get mad that people decline to go. Friends come and go, good for you.
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    swtcharity It's also weird to push for a reason for the decline and then being offended by it. If it's a no, it's a no and move on.
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    haleorshine It's always so wild when people get married and assume that everybody will find their wedding as important as it is to the couple getting married. If OP's attendance is so vital to the
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    bride that she would follow up on the reason for the decline (which is pretty tacky, unless they're like, best friends), she should have invited OP's husband and it's weird that she didn't.
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    If OP and the bride aren't close enough that OP's husband is automatically invited, the bride should just see the no and go "Oh, that's unfortunate" and move on.
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    exscapegoat Yes. People can choose to have destination weddings or not invite Spouses or other serious romantic partners and not invite kids. But not everyone is going to be able to attend.
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    crankylex Expecting a guest to travel to a destination wedding without a partner is outrageous.
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    Ok_Lengthiness_1175 It's surprising how often this happens. Weddings should be about celebrating together, not splitting couples. It can really strain friendships.
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    Somedaydreamer22 You're not obligated to send a gift either.
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    cruiser4319 Yep. A card will do.
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    L8_Apexx Wow, the audacity to tell you she was hurt. This is so r de to not to invite the spouse. Don't invite ppl like this if you don't have budget. I wouldn't bother with the gift as well.
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    reality_junkie_xo Yeah, I'd just reply that I was hurt that my spouse was not invited.
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    Not quite_fit_bitch Married and engaged and long-term live in partnership are not plus ones. You have to invite both people.
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    Tiffany Twisted11 Absolutely. And I am in the camp of if you are not in a committed relationship, you do not get a plus one. Living together, married, engaged, etc. is not even a plus one in my book. It is a GIVEN
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    Decent-Pirate-4329 I would feel totally comfortable attending a wedding without my spouse if he was unavailable to attend for some reason.
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    But I would not attend a wedding where the couple getting married intentionally excluded my spouse. RSVP No and don't send a gift.

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