"People that think arguing is a love language": Wise men and women spill the tea on the worst types of people to date

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Ely Bulnes • Writer and Editor
Mar 21, 2025 10:00 PM EDT

Is there a type of person that you would never want to date? Personally, I couldn't imagine being with someone who is into extreme sports. It would stress me out way too much – worrying about their safety all of the time.  I recently watched the movie Free Solo, which details the life of Alex Honnold, a rock climber famous for ascending natural wall formations without any equipment besides climbing shoes and chalk. Seeing his girlfriend brought to tears with anxiety while he put his life at risk just to do something no human had ever done before convinced me I have no interest in dating climbers, cavers, or divers. Even astronauts, who of course are scientists and not extreme sports hobbyists, are off the table due to the nature of their work. 

From specific personality traits to unappealing hobbies, there are plenty of reasons to cut a date short. If you're curious, scroll down below to find out which types of people internet folks would never go for.

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    What's one "type" you'll never date again?

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    Aggravating_Kale8248 Someone who doesn't want to communicate when something is bothering them.
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    Papaya Pioneer Or the extreme version - the silent treatment type. Passive aggressive, manipulative, and immature.
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    TheRealGongoozler I hate this. It almost always leads to passive aggressive behavior. You have to walk on egg shells and guess what it is
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    everydaywinner2 As one of these types, for some of us, this is because we were taught that our problems don't matter. Or when we try to say what is bothering us, our feelings get minimized. Or that which is bothering us gets used against us.
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    Pristine_Trash306 This. Then they start an internal war against you that you never asked to be a part of in the first place.
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    atuan Alternatively someone who doesn't want to listen when you tell them exactly what is bothering you. That's what creates your type.
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    Negative_Loquat_1276 The kind that thinks arguing is a love language.
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    Laney_Gain Man, preach. They tried to convince me that all couples have "problems" and that I didn't really love them because of how staunchly I pushed back. I was secretly checked out at the end.
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  • I completely shut down when people raise their voice at me; I could never be in a relationship with someone who thinks that yelling is fun.

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    Gerstledorfn I absolutely feel this. I remember an ex who seemed so shocked that I could have disagreements with people without yelling and screaming. We did not last very long after this revelation...
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    Soup-Mother5709 Sh, I had to end a 20 year friendship because of this. They became so vile in the end. Can't imagine being so bored or miserable with your life to feel a need to stir up that drama. Even after saying something, they doubled down. Lol, go figure.
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    QuietlyLosing My Mind My husband has had several people tell them we have relationship problems because we DON'T argue. He's like "No, we don't argue because we have aligned values and when we have issues, we
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    have conversations like rational adults." They say it's normal to argue. Um no, I saw enough of that growing up, if someone wants to yell at me instead of solving a problem I don't need them around.
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    marcorr The "constantly in a crisis but never does anything to fix it" type.
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    nailedtooth It's so hard when they're stressed about something and you have to sit there like 'oh no that's so rough' while there's a perfectly obvious way out of the situation they refuse to take
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    Jinnofthelamp Had an ex who fit this to a tee. It got so bad that on my phone I could type "W" and then only through the next word suggestion box complete it to "Wow that s ks".
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    mssleepyhead73 Somebody who thinks that they can do no wrong and won't take accountability for anything.
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    Fast Personality6371 Addicted to social media and selfies.
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    Better-Strike7290 My wife spends hours scrolling tiktok and Reddit and FB. She'll sit down "for a quick break" and 4 hours will go by. She'll look up and wonder where they day went then get mad a me because "we didn't spend time together today"
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  • This was definitely me at some point… the first step is recognizing that you have a problem, and then you can start tackling the screen time.

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    PuzzleheadedSwim6291 Married. Had no idea until his wife reached out to me after the fact...
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    Rade-Illustrator-884 I once dated/had a situationship with an engaged guy when I was 20 years old. I literally had no idea until he posted photos of his wedding day on his instagram.
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    fullglasseyes emotionally avoidant.
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    morpmeepmorp It's exhausting being with someone like that. They're always hot and cold and you'll forever be guessing what you did wrong this time.
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    TheParadoxigm Willfully Ignorant
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    Nadorable The gym bro who made everything about fitness. Don't get me wrong, I love staying healthy, but I don't need a lecture about my macros while I'm enjoying my birthday cake. Last straw was when he tried to turn our date night into a couples workout session.
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    FairyTypeGremlin "Intellectuals" who never admit they're wrong about anything
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    Ok_Law_298 Real intellectuals love being wrong because it means they get to learn something new.
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    ch314s And real knowledgeable people know how little they know.
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    Logical-Mom Someone who only sees the negative and bad in life and refuses to change their mind set. It is really mentally draining on both people.
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    redpandabear89 The type that weaponise their incompetence when it comes to basic house chores. It was exhausting.
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