22-year-old devours birthday cake meant for girlfriend's friend, he kicks her out after she makes a “big deal" over it: “Just make another one”

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Ely Bulnes • Writer and Editor
Mar 31, 2025 6:00 PM EDT

Have you ever purposefully eaten something that wasn't yours to eat? Back in elementary school, kids were allowed to bring candies and treats to pass out on Valentine's Day – well, in fact, it was expected. The type of treat you brought would sort of determine your position in the gradeschool hierarchy. Bringing Smarties or Tootsie Rolls put you at the bottom, and doughtnuts or cookies made you the coolest person in the grade. I somehow convinced my mom one year to buy cute, heart-shaped cookies, but I snuck one in the car on the way to school. I ended up being one cookie short for my classmates. I'm still sorry, Ashley!

In our story today, a 22-year-old man is the one digging into sweets that did not belong to him. His girlfriend warns him not to touch the cake she baked for her friend's birthday party, but when she comes home, she finds that it has been devoured. Internet commenters were quick to note that this is only one of many red flags that this man has to offer. Scroll down for more. 

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  • 01

    AITA for freaking out on my boyfriend after he and his friends ate the cake I made for my friend's birthday?

    "I specifically told him not to touch it.”
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  • 02
    I (19f) have been with my boyfriend (22m and lets call him Jonah) for five years and we have a four year old "Anna". He's a good dad, don't get me wrong. He loves our kid, plays with her, and helps out when it's his turn for the most part.
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  • 03
    But sometimes, it feels like he just does what he wants and I'm the only one who actually has to be the responsible adult in this situation.
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  • 04
    Like, I don't care that he still hangs out with his friends. I do too when I have the time and want him to have fun or whatever. But when they come over, they get way too rowdy.
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  • 05
    They'll be drinking, blasting music, smoking (w not ciga ttes but still I don't want that around my kid), and just being loud. I've told him a million times. that's not the kind of energy I want our daughter
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    around, and he just acts like I'm being uptight. So when I know he's having a "chill night" with them, I usually just take Anna to my parents' house so she doesn't have to deal with it.
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  • 07
    This time, I was actually excited to get out of the house for another reason. My best friend's birthday. She's been talking about this specific cake for months; a chocolate cheesecake-stuffed sheet cake (which, btw, took me forever to get right) so we agreed I'd make it for her birthday. I was so happy with how it turned out.
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    Baking's one of the few little things I got in between taking care of Anna and online school so I get really happy and proud about it when I get do it. Whether it's just for fun or for someone else.
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  • 10
    I spent hours making this cake. It was perfect. Before I left for my parents' house, I made it very, very clear to my boyfriend: "Do not touch this cake. It's for [friend]." He kinda laughed and went, "Yeah, okay, babe," like I was being weird for even saying it.
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  • 11
    I come back the next morning, go to grab the cake, and...half of it is gone. Like, a whole side of it just destroyed. I did have the thought maybe he would've cut himself a little piece (which would've still ped me off but whatever), but no, his friends got into it too.
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  • This is an overgrown man-child! I think her pointing out that she didn't want him to eat it only made him want to do it even more – like a defiant child! 

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    I asked him what the h I happened, and Jonah just shrugged and told me that they had the munchies. Like that was some kind of valid excuse. I was so mad. I told him I spent hours on it, that it was
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    literally my best friend's birthday cake, and that I had specifically told him not to touch it. And he had the audacity to go, "Babe, it's just some cake, why are you acting like this?"
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    Like, I don't know, maybe because I put so much effort into it and now I have nothing to bring to my friend's party?? He kept going on about how I was "blowing sh out of proportion" and how I "could just make another one."
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    As if I even have the time to do that and for it to be ready for the party. We kept arguing about it until he rolled his eyes at me and told me if I was gonna act like that over cake then I could stay with my parents.
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  • 17
    So yeah. He kicked me out. I barely had time to grab my things and our daughter because he was practically shooing me out of the door, and leave.
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    Now I'm back at my parents' house, feeling so stupid for even being surprised. And of course, now Jonah's texting me acting all confused like he never did anything. He's saying, "I just needed space to cool down," and "I didn't mean for you to actually leave-leave."
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  • 19
    I felt pretty justified until my mom told me basically that I need to let things like this and not overreact so much over mistakes. My mom is usually right when she tells me things like this. Soo yeah.
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  • Our protagonist's mother is not right with this. She wouldn't have been right even if he had just eaten the cake and apologized, but he didn't even do that, and then he kicked her out! He has no respect.

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    Odd-Exit 1894 Nta and you need to think about your future AND your daughter's future as well. If you stay with him then your daughter will grow up thinking that these things are normal but it is not. Either start saving up money to go somewhere else or give that little boy a choice.
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  • 22
    Normal_Grand_4702 Right.. he kicked her and baby out over a cake. His friends are more important than OP and his child.
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    TheCanadianLatina Still OP thinks he's a good father because he helps "for the most part" and plays with her. I feel sorry for OP who has been brainwashed to think this is good parenting.
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  • 24
    Wishing Dandelions NTA- dump him, he does not respect you. You guys can co-parent and make it work that way. I wouldn't stay with him.
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    Mintyfresh2024 He's inconsiderate and stupid. He's old enough to know not to eat something you made for a friend. Nta
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  • 26
    Briiiiiiyonce NTA. I'd dump him. He has no respect for you at all.
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  • 27
    Too Bad9999 NTA. When he wants a "chill night" with his boys, they should go to another house, not you and your child. I think this cake issue is just making you see the light.
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  • 28
    Evie_St_Clair No, you don't need to let this go. His actions were beyond disrespectful. It's not like they just ate too much of a normal cake and didn't leave you any. You told him specifically not to touch it and why and he still did it. On top of that he's a role model for your daughter. He needs to grow up and stop being so selfish.
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