23-year-old hijacks boyfriend's birthday party to celebrate her work promotion, invites her friends instead of his and ignores him: 'Not one mention of me or my birthday'

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    AITAH walking out my own birthday dinner because my girlfriend turned into her celebration?

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    So my (25M) birthday was last weekend. I don't usually do anything big, but this year a bunch of my friends were in town, and my girlfriend (23F) offered to plan something. I was genuinely excited. She made a dinner reservation at a nice place I've been wanting to try and said she had a little surprise planned.
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    The surprise was that she invited a bunch of her friends. Like, 6 of them. People I barely know. One of them I actively dislike because she used to hit on me when my girlfriend and I first started dating. My girlfriend brushed it off saying it would make things more fun and lively.
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    Whatever. I tried to roll with it. But then at the dinner, it just got worse. She spent the entire time talking to her friends. I was seated at the far end of the table next to two people I'd never met. She didn't even sit next to me. When the food
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    came, they all toasted her for organising everything and started talking about her upcoming promotion. Her best friend gave a speech about how she deserves all the happiness in the world. Not one mention of me or my birthday. No cake, no toast, no happy birthday. Nothing.
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    I literally just sat there while everyone gushed over her for two hours. Eventually I got up, paid for my portion of the meal, said I wasn't feeling well, and left. I didn't make a scene or yell. I just quietly left.
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    Later she texted me saying I embarrassed her in front of her friends and ruined the night. She said she tried really hard to make it special and I was being ungrateful. A few of her friends have messaged me saying I was being immature and that it wasn't that deep.
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    But I don't know, man. Is it crazy to think my birthday should've been at least a little about me? AITAH?
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    Update: We talked. She doubled down and said the dinner wasn't just about me, it was a chance to celebrate us and her hard work planning it. She admitted she didn't invite my friends because they wouldn't vibe
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    with her circle. Still no happy birthday, no apology, just told me I was being dramatic and should be thankful she even organised something. I guess the dinner really was all about her. So yeah, I ended things.
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    Lost_Needleworker285 Nta, she didn't throw you a birthday dinner, she threw herself a dinner, but decided she could kill two birds with one stone if she lied and said it was for you.
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    mileyxmorax You've done nothing wrong, she didn't throw you a birthday dinner she organised a meet up with her friends whilst you were there, did she even invite any of your friends, she sounds horrible and only cares about herself to say she made an effort when no one even said anything to you is crazy, you handled it well and should leave her
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    Booklet-of-Wisdom Also, if there was no cake or Happy Birthday stuff, she didn't do a very good job planning!
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    Null-Pointer-Bro OP I mean, I really don't understand why she did that. Maybe I am overthinking, idk man. Update guys: I broke up with her.
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    SnooWords4839 She was probably expecting OP to pick up the whole bill.
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    Beach_Girl65 NTA. Next time she brings up how you embarrassed her, why don't you tell her how much she embarrassed you by inviting people you hardly knew or didn't even like, ignoring you and making the evening about herself. Speak up for yourself! You did nothing wrong-she's the one in the wrong.
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    Adventurous-Emu-755 There really shouldn't be a next time, he should just break it off and move on, things will not get better with this self-absorbed b
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    Nolmagination7892 So, your friends were in town, but she only invited her friends? That's awful
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    BlueEyesBlonde It sounds like she didn't consider his feelings at all
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    grayblue_grrl She invited you to "her" event. She isn't your friend. She's really selfish, thoughtless and self centred.
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    She will never make you a priority. She will never be a partner. You will never matter in the relationship. She loves only herself. Time to move on, dude.
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    NoahVail2024 NTA. On the plus side, Happy Birthday! I hope you have a much better girlfriend when your next birthday rolls around and you can celebrate with your friends!
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    AbsurdDaisy Did she invite ANY of your friends? NTA but think.about if this is normal behavior for her and if this is how you want to continue?
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    Powerful_Put_6977 You were grateful - you paid for your part in the celebration. If she was really putting together a celebration for your birthday, she would have covered the costs and you wouldn't have needed to pay at all.
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    This was a celebration for her promotion. If it wasn't for that purpose, ask her why none of your friends/colleagues/family were invited to your birthday celebrations and hers were?
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    If she felt embarrassed, good. She didn't make an effort for your birthday. She made a restaurant reservation for your birthday. That's all. She needs to up her game or you need to find a better girlfriend. If walking out of the restaurant after paying for your part and heading home ruins a night, then her definition of what ruins a night needs updating.
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    - Honestly at this point I'd be wondering how compatible you are and I'd consider ending the relationship. NTA
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    Bagafeet She didn't even make the reservation for his birthday; she made it on his birthday and then made sure to deliberately exclude his friends. Good on him for dumping her.

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