‘She will absolutely never ever be near my baby’: Pregnant woman refuses her toxic 32-year-old stalking sister-in-law's delusional demands to babysit

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Etai Eshet • Editor
Apr 12, 2025 6:00 PM EDT

Let's be perfectly clear: there's petty family drama, and then there's this, a Shakespearean-level saga of delusion, hostility, and audacity, starring a sister-in-law who seems to confuse family with a free pass to terrorize. Imagine years of unhinged behavior, hurling insults, making false police reports, stalking your house like an obsessed mind-games movie villain, only for her to turn around and say, "By the way, I'd love to babysit your baby." It's almost impressive how detachment from reality can be so thorough, so unshakable.  

This sister-in-law isn't just problematic, she's a five-alarm dumpster fire of red flags. She's the kind of person who'd crash your baby shower screaming, "I should have been in charge of the cake!" She's the relative who'd offer to babysit, insist on buying a crib and stroller, and then forget the baby at her favorite bar.

Giving her access to a child is like handing a pyromaniac a box of matches and asking them to keep an eye on the curtains.

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  • This story is about basic survival instincts. If banishing her from the baby’s life makes you the bad guy, strap that villain cape with pride. Some bridges are meant to be burned, and this one’s already been doused in gasoline.

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  • My sister in law (32f) is the one who introduced me to her brother, we were friends for a little while and I was going through a hard time so I stayed with their family. I paid rent every
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  • month to their mother for a room (before we got together). She would pay for whatever they decided they needed which was fine. But SIL decided to put the electricity in her name and she
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  • expected me to pay it. It went fine at first because the amount I paid in rent covered that and more, but it got to the point in de d winter that it became almost $900
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  • and I only paid my regular amount. ($250). She threw a fit and said it was my responsibility. All the while everyone in the house paid rent but her. After
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  • that went down she started calling me names like fat c*** and other disrespectful things. (She's by no means small). She moved out. (Everyone was ecstatic). I
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  • would see her driving by screaming profanities at me every single time she saw me. She would also threaten me. Whatever I'm not in the least bit afraid of her, but this has
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  • continued for years. Most recently she called my job and told them that I assaulted her on the property of my job, I don't think she even came to my job. She's
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  • been caught sitting outside of my home for hours watching me. It's gotten so crazy that I've had to put paperwork on her for stalking and harassment and online
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  • ab e. I found out I was pregnant 3 months ago. She had the audacity to tell my husband (34m) she wants to babysit and throw the baby shower. My sister is already doing it. My husband has
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  • a hard time so he told her we weren't having one because he also doesn't want her there. She keeps bringing up things to my MIL about getting a crib to babysit and a stroller. AITAH to
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  • say that she will absolutely never ever be near my baby and she has to be absolutely delusional to believe that I would allow that? It kind of feels like she thinks my husband will let it happen but he
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  • won't. I don't trust her anywhere near my child. I would also like to throw in that she has a kid (9f) who when she was a baby used to drive around drinking with her in the backseat. She does struggle
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  • I just am wondering what other people think. The most recent incident happened is December, so it's not like she's grown or tried to apologize. AITAH Edit: I would like to put it out there that I do
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  • like to put it out there that I do NOT need my husband to fight my battles for me. He has stood up for me every time but I am more than capable of taking care of myself and my baby. BuT He's tHe MaN! gtfoh.
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  • Hotdogandbologna69 NTA!!!!! This is a woman with psychological issues. If she cleans up and goes to therapy maybe a chance Years down the road but MY GOD NO
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  • Bonnm42 NTA but Husband needs to get over his "hard time" and protect you and his child. He needs to tell her in no uncertain terms "Because of your past toxic actions to
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  • OP, you will not be allowed near our child. Actions have consequences. You wanted to stalk and harass OP, now you will miss out on your niece/nephew.
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  • Clean_Permit_3791 I'm not entirely sure why you think you could possibly be the AH in the situation. But if you're looking for advice get that protective
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  • order sorted ASAP and get your baby added to it so if MIL or anyone tries to bring your baby around her they will be breaking the law. NTA
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  • Lann42016 NTA id even consider moving away from her just to put some distance there so she doesn't try to steal your baby or something
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  • ChickenScratchCoffee NTA. Your husband sounds like a wet noodle and so you're going to have to take charge here. Inform her in writing that she will never be allowed to babysit or even see your child because she is not a safe person. If your
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  • husband has a problem with that, then he can leave. You're about to be a parent and your number one job is keeping that baby safe.
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