‘They made no effort to be there for anything else’: Grandson cuts off entitled grandparents 5+ years ago after they ignored his strict boundaries, then want back into his life when he's graduating from a prestigious university

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Lana DeGaetano • "Show me to me please."
May 10, 2025 6:00 PM EDT

When family decides they can treat you however they want, that's when you start considering if DNA is as important as the public thinks it is in terms of familial-like relationships. Family doesn't equate to support, and that's clear in this next story.

Not every elder believes that younger children deserve respect, which is an outdated take. All people are deserving of respect until proven otherwise, and boundaries cannot be crossed if they're clearly set. Any line that's stepped over after that glows crimson until the bridge connecting them goes up in flames.

In this next story, a man cuts off his grandparents because they refused to abide by his boundaries. Over five years later, they want back into his life, but the man is suspicious. Why? Well, he's graduating from a university that would lend his grandparents a certain level of prestige. After all, entitled people adore labels and making themselves feel better about themselves. It's kind of the entire stereotype. Scroll below to see how the story unfolds.

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  • "Cut off my ‘grandparents’ 5+ years ago for ignoring boundaries, now they want to know ‘so how long are you going to stay mad...’ because they found out I'm graduating from prestigious university"

    I cut off my mom's parents (my "grandparents") over five years ago after years of other issues that had been ignored and finally came to a breaking point for me during C D. The final straw
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  • was when they blew up on my sibling and me for not sending thank-you cards within weeks of our birthdays, even though we didn't receive their cards and
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  • checks until months later due to mail delays. I explained the situation (abet in similar tone to them I admit) and did provide an apology, but they completely ignored what I said. My sibling
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  • was really upset, which was a bigger problem to me than if they just went after me alone and it became painfully clear after factoring past issues we had with
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  • them that they cared more about feeling owed surface level thanks than about having a real relationship with us. So I set a boundary. I told them if they were
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  • going to continue this then I just wouldn't accept money from them anymore so please stop sending it, I wasn't going to keep performing thank-yous like a
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  • transaction, and I needed distance. They ignored all of it. They kept sending money. So I stopped responding and kept handing cards back to my mom
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  • and told her I didnt want them, they then started focusing their attention on her complaining about me not accepting them so after realizing my mom wasnt
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  • able to stand up to them I opted to make it easier on her and throwing them away myself. Now, more than five years later, they reached out. Not to apologize.
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  • Not to make amends. They only reached out because they found out I'm graduating from a prestigious university and they didn't get a single invitation, for this graduation or the one before it.
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  • Their message from a new non- blocked number? In summary for clarity: "So how long are you going to stay mad? It's been two years, you're not cashing the gift checks."
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  • Not only is that completely wrong on when I stopped actually cashing checks, but it also shows how little they cared in my mind. This isn't about being mad anymore to me. It is about no
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  • longer letting people into my life who only show up when there's something in it for them. They made no effort to be there for anything else, but now they're
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  • upset because they can't bask in the end result. You don't get to ignore boundaries and still expect a front-row seat at the finish line.
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  • I will walk the stage, I will celebrate with those I consider family even if they aren't bl d related to me because in my mind, bl d does NOT make you family.
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  • I know I'm not in the wrong. I'm just venting, and I love listening to Reddit posts so here you go. I also hope at some point my mom is able to stand up to them herself.
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  • MelG146 "I'm not mad, I just don't care anymore."
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  • SnooWords4839 Next time they try to contact you, just say - who is this?
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  • CookiesNMayonnaise Wow, the audacity. After disrespecting your boundaries, obviously using money against you just so they can feel superior because you "owe" them. Now they want to partake in the glory of your hard work? Absolutely not! Good on you for staying away from your so-called "family"!
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