21-year-old refuses to host bratty 13-year-old stepsister in his spare room while dad is away on his honeymoon: "My dad's not backing down, but neither am I"

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    AITA for refusing to let my dad's future stepdaughter stay with me for a week when my dad and his fiancée go on their honeymoon?

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    My dad's engaged to a woman named Clara and Clara has a 13 year old daughter Elizabeth. I don't live with my dad and Clara. I (21m) rent a place with my girlfriend (21f). We have a spare bedroom and we've had family members stay with us before.
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    Because of this, and because Elizabeth doesn't have a dad or extended family in her life, and because nobody in our family will take Elizabeth for the week, my dad is pressuring me to let her stay with us for the week.
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    Elizabeth's a brat and a spoiled one too. She thinks she's entitled to do what she wants when she wants. My grandparents babysat her several times before they said no more. The last straw was her taking $20 from my grandparents room to buy herself snacks
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    and she left the house and went to the store without asking. She'd snooped in other rooms of the house before. She broke stuff in their house before like a vase, a picture frame and the handle of one of the
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    kitchen cabinets. She's cursed at different members of my family, flipped them the bird, yelled at younger kids in the family and has stolen food from their plates too specifically the younger members of the family.
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    We've had our encounters too. When I visited dad and she tried to take my phone after I said no and was willing to fight me for it or when she got into my face because I didn't bring my PS5 over to dad's house. I avoid going to dad's house because I don't wanna deal with Elizabeth.
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    My dad knows about all of this. He's choosing to sign up to be Elizabeth's stepdad. But he's saying that I should sign up to be her brother and help her and I told him no way. We fought about it because
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    he sees me allowing her to stay as showing good faith in the new family and he told me Elizabeth will be around for the rest of my life so I should try to get along. He told me she needs to go somewhere and
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    she's not going on honeymoon with him and Clara. I told him to pay someone to watch her because whoever gets stuck with her deserves it. He told me she's not that bad and it's only a week and it's not like I can't have people over.
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    My dad's not backing down but neither am I. He's getting more p ed about it and maybe worried that he'll need to spend the money on finding someone to stay with her. He told me this isn't how family treats each other and all kinds of cr p.
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    And look, I know Elizabeth's only 13. I know teens are moody. I know she's probably got her own trauma and sh. So I'm coming here to ask if I'm TA for refusing to let her stay for the week my dad's on his honeymoon. Because my dad sure thinks so and I know Clara does too. She thinks we're all a hles for not giving her daughter more of a chance.
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    Melted Wellie What are you going to do if, the morning of his honeymoon, he just leaves Elizabeth at your doorstep?
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    Him 'not backing down' leads me to believe this is exactly what he plans to do whether you agree to take her or not.
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    Warn him, if he does this, you will call the police and CPS and report him for child abandonment. Send this warning over text as proof that you told him this. Be clear - she cannot stay with you. NTA
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    bellamellayellafella NTA. Not only should your dad be respecting your boundary, but it's kind of weird for Elizabeth's mother to not secure living arrangements for her own child.
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    kindaright-ish My money is on her own extended family won't I have her for the same reasons. Rule number one when planning a child free trip is arranging childcare before you book/plan anything. Dad & his soon to be wife need to go back to the drawing board.
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    Lloyd Penfold Probably glad to be away from her for a week!
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    Weird PinkHair NTA And please tell your dad that if he drops her off and drives away you will be calling the police for child abandonment. No is a complete sentence. He signed up to be a step, you didn't.
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    As soon as he brings this up in conversation tell him the discussion is over, the answer of no, has not nor will it ever change and you will terminate the call if he continues. And every time he does hang up. Control the situation. Will he be ped, yes. But then he's ped now so what's the difference.
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    BigZookeepergame4522 Just to add. If your dad has a spare key to your place this could be an issue, so make sure he can't just get in.
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    Peaches 732 NTA She has behavioral issues that are not being addressed. She stealing breaking things and what would stop her from lying on you or your gf? Definitely do not keep her for a week where is her mom when all this is going on?
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    Very-last-boyscout First off, even if Elizabeth would be an angel, your dad's planning would be weird. You hardly know the girl, you're a young man, sharing a place with your gf,... that's just weird.
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    I'm talking as a father of two grown up daughters. IF I had a new gf or fiance, I would never ever expect my grown up daughters to babysit new partner's teenage kid. The thought would have never crossed my mind.
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    Given Elizabeth's rap sheet, your father pressuring you is beyond weird. It's downright evil. The whole. "this isn't how family treats each other"-spiel is just emotional blackmail and should be treated as such. Btw, tell your father, emotional blackmail "isn't how family treats each other". Please don't give in.
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    WittySmilezone OP Thank you. I'm prepared to stand strong on this and hold onto my no. My dad doesn't like it and I know he's stressing but he needs to figure out an alternative solution.

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