44-year-old dad tries to downgrade stepkids' expensive education after ex-wife loses job and stops sending bio kids to private school, new wife stands her ground: "[He] has nothing to do with your childrens' education"

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    AITAH for refusing to change my children's school for husband after his ex wife lost her high paying job

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    I am 42f with two children 16f and 12m with my ex dany. I have been married to Greg 44m who had a son 15m and daughter 10f with her ex Lia.
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    We met at our children's school. Dany and i jointly fund out children's private school and they have college funds set by both set of grandparents. He is loaded. My ex and I don't like each other. But we co
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    parent well and want best for kids. Greg and I have decided that things we buy and treat kids equal at home. But school, college fund won't be mixed as our ex are involved. As well as gifts from ex partners..
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    We have had to teach kids the differences about the income when it comes to my ex kids. Kids are nice to each other and share things. Although they definitely love their bio siblings way more.
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    Greg and his ex jointly fund their children education too. But Lia lost her job recently and has to downgrade. That means they can't pay for same school. They had to change school. Now he is pressuring me that his kids hate that my children go to bigger international school. And we should change school after summer.
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    I told him that my kids education can't be compromised and it was clear to us, that we are responsible for our children's school as well as college education. We are fighting a lot on this and he is saying I am being too tough.
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    He is sleeping in other room. But I won't change anything regarding my children and my ex alone can pay for children education, if I even try to do this and my kids will never forgive me.
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    I love Greg but this is the hill I will di on. I don't think he would've changed his kids's schools if this was the case on my side. Even if it means, I have to lose him. I am hurting inside. But I want best for my children.
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    No-Stable365 NTA. Greg has nothing to do with your children's education and apparently has been that way since the beginning. Greg can't change the rules because he feels your children are getting a better deal.
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    Your children come first and their education is so important, as well as being set up by going to a good school, good college etc. I stand with you on this hill.
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    Mother Search3350 Greg needs to get over himself and stop thinking that he gets a say on where another man's children go to school when he isn't even paying for it.
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    They aren't his children, they have a father. Their father pays for their education and not him. Their fathers finances and what he wants to provide for his children are none of his business.
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    He needs to get a grip and teach himself and his own children to manage their expectations. They aren't going to get everything they want in life and there will always be somebody who has more, is better off, is smarter, is more successful than them. They don't get to demand that other people do without because they don't have.
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    Octavia Lockwoode Totally agree Greg is way out of line here. If he's not contributing financially and isn't the father, he really doesn't have a say in those decisions. It's not his place to interfere with what another parent chooses to provide for their own kids. Instead of
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    trying to control someone else's situation, he should focus on raising his own kids with realistic expectations about life that fairness doesn't mean everyone gets the same, and sometimes others will simply have more. That's just how life works.
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    Available-Eye3865 Agreed. I think also he has a pride problem considering he can't afford it anymore and the ex can. Life ain't fair but he can't demand that of you.
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    LuxeSirenX Exactly You're just making sure your kids' education stays stable and following the agreement with your ex. It's a tough situation, but you're doing what's best for your children.
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    bandit77346 I agree with you but many people are beginning to think other people shouldn't have things they I can't have. A form of entitlement.
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    Naughty_Cutiev Stand your ground on this one. I switched schools three times as a teen because of my parents' drama, and it messed me up socially. Your kids' education and stability shouldn't be compromised just because Lia's having financial issues.
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    -Nightopian- Reading your comment I remembered this isn't just about the schools. The kids have friends at the school too. Switching schools would tear them away from those friends.

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