24-year-old refuses to share new Wi-Fi password until influencer roommate agrees to remove videos that show her sleeping in the background: “I don't think I'm asking for much - just basic privacy in my own home?”

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Ely Bulnes • Writer and Editor
May 22, 2025 5:00 PM EDT

Anyone who was grew up in the 2010s and watched influencers go from rich people that showed off their lavish lifestyles to normal people with niche interests sometimes gets the itch to try their hand at becoming internet famous. You used to have to have talent or be funny or attractive, but that's not necessarily the case anymore. You can easily gain hundreds of thousands of followers on Tiktok or YouTube by talking about weird historical facts, documenting what you eat every day on a specific diet, or by showing off your crafting skills

In our story today, a young woman has her privacy invaded by her wannabe-influencer roommate who insists on filming every aspect of her existence with no regard for others. When our protagonist finds herself sleeping in the background of her roomie's content, she changes the Wi-Fi password and refuses to share it with her until she removes the videos from her page. 

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    AITA for changing the WiFi password until my roommate stops posting videos of me and my stuff online?

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    I (24F) have been living with my childhood best friend (25F) for almost 3 years now. We've known each other since elementary school and our friendship has survived a lot, but I think I might have messed up big time.
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    So my friend is super into social media. Like, OBSESSED. She posts literally everything about her life online - what she eats, where she goes, who she hangs with, everything. I've always been more private and don't really post much.
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    Last month, she started posting tons of pics and videos of our apartment, including my bedroom and my stuff without asking. I noticed when mutual
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    friends started commenting about my book collection and some personal items visible in the background. I asked her to please stop posting my space online, and she agreed.
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    Yesterday, I was scrolling through TikTok and found she'd posted a "day in our life" video showing my bedroom AGAIN, my medication on the counter (I have anxiety), and even me sleeping on the couch (I didn't know she filmed me).
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    I completely lost it. While she was at work, I changed. our WiFi password, removed her devices from our account, and told her I wouldn't give her the new password until she deleted ALL videos with my personal stuff in them.
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    She came home freaking out because she "needs WiFi for work" (she's a content creator) and called me controlling and dramatic. She said as her roommate I can't just cut her off from utilities we both pay for. She's now staying at her mom's place and telling everyone I'm a psycho who's jealous of her social media success.
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    I don't think I'm asking for much - just basic privacy in my own home? But maybe changing the WiFi password was too extreme? Our mutual friends are split some think I'm justified, others think I went nuclear over something small. So, AITA for cutting off my roommate's WiFi until she respects my privacy?
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  • Why is having these videos up so important to her? Honestly, it's a little creepy. There's a way to be an influencer and document your life without interfering with other people. 

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    Tanks-Your-Face Depending on where you live it could be illegal to record or video tape someone in their private property without their permission.
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    Could look into possibly filing a police report since they essentially Doxxing you by showing medication which could cause job problems and other stressful situations unnecessarily as your medical concerns are nobody but your own.
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    Dangerous-WinterElf I don't know where OP is from. But where I'm from prescription medications has a label with full name. Adress and other personal information. Basically, stuff you do NOT want Internet strangers to have access to.
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    Also besides the police report, etc. I would ask the roommate where my share of any earnings from videos where my room or myself is present in Is. She's earning money while using OP and OP'S space as a prop.
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    TheNightTerror1987 Here, the bottle has a prescription number on it, and I've never once had to give ID to pick up my medications. In fact, I've had other people pick up my medication for me in the past when I couldn't get to the store myself. It wouldn't be hard at all to gather enough information to fill the prescription and how could you prove that you weren't the one who ordered and picked up the medicine when you try to do it yourself?
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    lemon_charlie It's a major security risk. It's bad enough that she's got no filter on what information she puts online about herself when she and OP live in the same space, but she's majorly crossed a line by putting OP's space and things up for anyone to see. If there's enough information to lead someone to the apartment, there's enough material to digitally case the joint.
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    For a content creator she's not good at curating her content. I'd report the videos to tick tock (I know I misspelled it, but that was intentional). They've got to have rules about consent of subjects and personal safety.
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  • Our protagonist could totally make the case that this endangers her life if her roomie refuses to double down. 

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    Electronic_Menu_6937 You didn't go nuclear about something small. This is a big deal and the wifi pasport change honestly an equal measure. NTA. I hope you can get the vids taken down or at least seriously edited. You didn't agree to be her content, she should have asked
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    permission. Yes, it's her livelihood. But if I steal your money because I'm broke and you demand it back, I can not claim "it's my livelihood"... like I didn't steal it and you're the bad guy for demanding it back. You're NTA.
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    Severe_Chicken213 Normally I'd say you're in the wrong for cutting her off from utilities she pays for, but she has massively and repeatedly crossed the line. I'd be looking for a new roommate.
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    SavingsRhubarb8746 NTA. She has no business posting your personal space and property online and CERTAINLY no business posting images of you that you not only didn't agree to, but didn't even know she was taking.
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    To get around the WiFi complaint, start paying for it yourself. Don't back down about letting her pay for and use it again until you are absolutely sure she's deleted everything.
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    kurokomainu NTA All she has to do is remove the content that invades your privacy and the problem is instantly over. Asking didn't work. She obviously needs to be externally motivated.
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    She wants to be free to do whatever she wants which for some reason involves invading your privacy to ridiculous levels (e.g. showing your medication online) -- with no consequences. --
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    No, that's not acceptable. Yes, it is a big deal. She feels upset? She can cry harder. What she wants is flat out unacceptable -- you're just doing what you have to to protect your privacy after being nice and
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    polite about it failed. Any friends that support her actions can volunteer to have her stay overnight, so she can go through their rooms and post whatever private or embarrassing thing she finds online, including video of their sleeping, drooling faces.
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