Parents drive wedge between adult sisters after they gift the golden child $75,000 when years before they badgered the other to pay back $3750 for a car: "The whole situation screams favoritism"

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    AITAH for being bitter and holding a grudge against my Mother and Sister for Keeping a 75k secret.

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    When my sister was pregnant with her second child. Her and her second husband bought a house together in a very nice neighborhood. Six years later I was visiting
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    my step father and he let it slip that my sister had not paid back any of the 75k he and my mom had loaned her for a down payment on the house. He immediately saw
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    my shocked face and said "oops, I'm in trouble". When I confronted my Mother and Sister they admitted to the loan but insisted they just forgot to mention it to me.it wasn't
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    secret it just hadn't come up for six years. A year before the loan, I borrowed 1/10 the amount for a car down payment. I was required by them to email my sister about the loan. If they d d before I paid them back they wanted to be sure she got her $3750.
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    a
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    Less than two years later they loan her 75k, no email. What if they d d? You think sis would've let me know about the 37.5 k that she owed me? Anyway, I just bought a house
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    without a secret loan and my mom called me this morning to offer me an ugly chair for free. She said I didn't sound appreciative and I lost it.
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    Cacti-make-bad-d Tell your mom to go appreciate the wedge she drove between you and your sister and
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    how she won't have family to lean on because of of her favoritism. Then wish them both good luck and take some space for yourself.
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    HonneyPeachy Exactly this, OP! The whole situation just screams favoritism and they don't even seem ashamed about it. You're not being
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    dramatic or petty, you're reacting to a clear betrayal. Taking space is the healthiest thing you can do right now.
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    brownskinnedlady It's not really about the money, it's about feeling left out and treated differently. That
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    would hurt anyone. Wanting the same honesty and fairness your sister got isn't being petty; it's completely human.
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    Big_Set2514 nah you're not the ah. they didn't forget, they just didn't want to admit they played favorites. it's not even about the money, it's
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    about the double standard and the lie by omission. holding onto that kind of grudge isn't petty when trust was clearly broken. they made it uneven you just finally called it out
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    Midwest Normal Don't forget the sister hasn't paid back ANY of the 75k, and likely never will.
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    Lurker-78 Sounds like stepdad is bitter that they haven't repaid them and intentionally let you in on the secret
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    ChibbleChobble Oops, I forgot to talk to you for the rest of my life. Funny how karma's a b
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    Chance_Culture_441 NTA- it's messed up enough that they never told you, but add the previously required email from OP makes it 100x worse!
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    OP should require a notarized letter from Sister that she owes him half if anything happens to parents.
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    AltF4Open They didn't just forget. They hid it. For six whole years. That's not a slip..it's a choice.
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    And only owning up after getting caught? That shows they were never planning to be honest in the first place...
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    MrsCrumbly It just seems they don't think you matter. It must be very hurtful.
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    HonneyPeachy Absolutely this, OP!! They've shown you where you stand in their priorities and it's nowhere near where it should be. That
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    kind of dismissal from family hurts more than anything, and you're absolutely allowed to feel upset about it.

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