'He's making it out like I'm some jealous psycho': Woman refuses to let boyfriend invite his female BFF over after he tries to convince her that the only option would be to sleep in the same bed together

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    AIO for telling my boyfriend his “best friend" can't sleep over in our bed while I'm away?

    Couple under covers laughing
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    I (27F) am away for my sister's hen do this weekend. My boyfriend (28M) just casually announced that his best mate
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    from uni (a woman) is in town for a gig and he's offered for her to stay at ours. Grand, no bother.
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    Then he drops that since our sofa is knackered and the air bed has a slow puncture, she'll just have to kip in our bed. With him. While I'm not there.
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    Couple in laying in a bed smiling
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    I told him absolutely not, I'm not comfortable with that at all. I offered to nip to Argos after work and grab a new air bed, I even
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    said I'd chip in for a Travelodge. I said he could sleep on the floor if it was that much of a big deal. He reckons that's insulting to her and that I'm making it 'weird' because they're just mates.
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    Here's the thing though. They did have a thing back in school, which he says was "for like two weeks". She also has a habit of FaceTiming him late at night and
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    posts old photos of them with captions like "my absolute favourite human". He swears blind it's all platonic, but sharing our actual bed just feels like a massive boundary crossed.
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    Man laughing at his phone while woman looks suspiciously at him
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    He's proper kicked off, saying I'm being controlling and that she's skint so it's just the decent thing to do. Now he's saying if she cant
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    stay in our bed, he'll just go and stay at her brother's house with her instead. To be honest that sounds even dodgier.
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    Am I the one going mental here? It's not that I don't trust him, exactly, it just feels disrespectful to me and to our relationship.
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    He's making out like I'm some jealous psycho but I feel like this is a pretty normal thing to be against.
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    Just want to know if I'm being unreasonable before this turns into a massive row.
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    Blazing Sunflowerland He's likely trying to cover for things like the friend's hair being in the bed or any of her clothes getting left behind.
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    HereForTheDrama280 I was thinking this too. Hard to explain a stray hair found in your bed unless you've already created an excuse for it.
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    AgreeableAngle But he's either dumb or testing the waters to see if he can walk all over her and do this regularly. A normal cheater could have suggested the friend use their bed and the boyfriend could sleep on the air mattress and then just...lie? OP won't be there to see if he is in the bed or not.
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    Man laying lazily on a couch
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    S9_noworries It kind of sounds like there's been something going on with them for a while now, and she's only able to come down when you're
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    conveniently not going to be there. It could be a coincidence, but the way he's acting sounds like he doesn't want to be separated from her for some reason. He could just as well
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    catch up with her, and they go to their own accommodations, but this doesn't seem to be what your bf wants. At this point, can you trust anything your bf says if you
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    ask if something happened between the two of them? No matter how much you protest, he's going to stay with her while you're gone and most likely in the same bed.
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    Just tell him he can move out and spend all the time he wants with her because you're done. I wouldn't want either of them in my home doing who knows what. Change your locks.
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    Running_Hill- Yeah, exactly. His insistence on staying with her, especially after you voiced discomfort, shows total disregard for your
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    boundaries. Even if nothing has happened yet, the lack of respect alone is enough reason to end things and protect your space.
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    NOR QueenofUncreativity Even if there was nothing going on, and they really wouldn't do anything, why is her comfort his priority over yours?
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    This is a super reasonable boundary to have, and even if there is nothing nefarious going on between them, they should be understanding and respect that.
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    I'd seriously reconsider this relationship if he actually is going to stay at her brother's with her. Btw, why does he need to host her at all if she can stay with her brother? Sketchy all around

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