'This is a medical accommodation, not a negotiation': 30-year-old boyfriend demands 19-year-old girlfriend's roommate crate her service dog because he pays rent, sparking tense household showdown

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    Am I overreacting for refusing to crate my service dog so my teenage roommate’s 30yo boyfriend feels “comfortable”?​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

    'I told my roommate either the dog stays as is, or I'm moving out.' SERVICE DOG
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    I (23F) have narcolepsy and use a service dog who alerts me before sleep attacks. I've had her for two years and she's changed my life.
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    My roommate (19F) and I have lived together for six months with no issues. Last week she told me her boyfriend (30M) is moving in.
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    I said okay, but asked that we all sit down to discuss house rules since it's a big change.
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    During that conversation, he said he's "uncomfortable with dogs" and wants her crated whenever he's
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    I explained she's a service dog, not a pet, and that she needs to be with me to do her job.
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    He said he "gets that" but his comfort matters too since he's paying rent. He suggested I could keep her in my bedroom only, but she needs to move freely to alert me. wherever I am in the apartment.
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    I said no, this is a medical accommodation, not a negotiation. Now my roommate is saying I'm being "inflexible" and "ruining her relationship" because her boyfriend is reconsidering moving in.
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    She said I'm "choosing a dog over her happiness" and that I'm being selfish since "it's her apartment too." My sister thinks I should just try to keep the dog in my room more often to "meet them halfway." I told my roommate either the dog stays as is, or I'm moving out.
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    Now she's crying that I'm "abandoning" her and she can't afford rent alone. AIO?
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    Hallows Chaser • 5h ago NOR, it's illegal to separate you from a service animal. I had to stand my ground. against my family for the same reason, only my dog senses my seizures before they hit.
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    Bubbly_Gene_1315 5h ago . Is he on the lease? If he's not on the lease I would not agree to him being put on the lease or moving in. You might want to check your lease agreement and make sure there's nothing about unauthorized long term stays from people as well - some leases have clauses like this and you'll want to make sure you aren't breaking the lease agreement by allowing him to move in.
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    DJGrassonova · 6h ago Not overreacting and that age disparity between your roommate and her bf is ridiculous. Tells you everything you need to know
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    Feisty... 5h ago • • 5h ago Edited 4h ago "I (23F) have narcolepsy-" no you are not the asshole ? Why would you even question that? You have a condition that makes you fall asleep at any given moment. This disease is very, very, very dangerous.
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    Ain't no way your roommate expects for you to crate your dog which HELPS you with your CONDITION. I'm sorry but you should keep your ground. Yes, her bf's wellbeing matters but so does yours.
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    Only_Hour_7628 • 5h ago She should just keep her boyfriend crated or in her room instead.
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    Regigiformayor 5h ago Stand your ground. NOR. If this guy doesn't move in it's probably better for you and your roommate.
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    Initial_Dish6682.5h ago Okay if the 30 year old boyfriend is uncomfortable moving in where Op has been before him why doesn't he take his little girlfriend and they move in together.
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    BeautifulChaosEnergy 5h ago I'm afraid he will you dog if he moves in Your dog is a medical device, if you relied on a wheelchair to get around, would he force you crawl because someone ran over his toes when he was a kid?
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    Please sit down with your roommate and let her know the dog is non-negotiable and her bf is being a sive. Can you afford this apartment on your own? If you can, tell her to move in with him if she wants to live with him so badly
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    Or start looking for a new place to live. This situation is going to turn toxic very quickly

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