Arrogant coworker gets well-deserved karma after employee decides to withhold valuable information before her important meeting: ‘This time, I stayed quiet’

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  • A woman gives a presentation in front of her colleagues.
  • "AITAH for not warning my coworker that she was about to embarrass herself in front of leadership?"

    I (25F) work in a small but growing company. We're all around the same age (mid 20s to early 30s), so things are friendly but competitive.
  • One of my coworkers (27F) is very confident. She speaks up a lot in meetings and likes to position herself as the "strategic thinker" of the team.
  • Sometimes she's great. Sometimes she clearly hasn't done the homework. Last week we had a meeting with senior leadership about a new internal process.
  • I had done a lot of research on it beforehand because I was directly responsible for implementation.
  • Before the meeting, she told me she planned to challenge the proposal and suggest a better framework.
  • When she explained her idea to me casually, I realized she was basing it on outdated information.
  • We had already tested that exact approach and it failed. I considered telling her. But honestly...
  • she has a history of interrupting me in meetings and presenting my ideas louder and more confidently.
  • I've corrected her privately before and she brushed it off. So this time, I stayed quiet.
  • In the meeting, she confidently presented her alternative. Leadership immediately asked follow-up questions. I explained (when prompted) that we had already tried it and shared the data.
  • It got awkward fast. Afterward, she was upset and said I should have warned her beforehand instead of letting her walk into that.
  • A woman smiles at her colleagues, shaking hands.
  • She said teammates are supposed to look out for each other. I said it wasn't my job to manage her preparation, especially when she didn't ask for feedback, she just told me what she was going to say.
  • Now things are tense. A couple coworkers think I technically didn't do anything wrong, but that I could of handled it better.
  • AITA for not stepping in before the meeting? P.S.: She claims to be my office bestie
  • motimoj It's always interesting when certain people are "allowed" to be competitive, and others are not. NTA
  • OP AlinHR People with civic sense are generally not allowed to be humans to be precise
  • For_Vox_Sake > I said it wasn't my job to manage her preparation, especially when she didn't ask for feedback, she just told me what she was going to say This is exactly it. If she'd have come to you and said "Hey, I know you've been working on x project, and I have read about y, is that something you considered?" and you could've had a conversation about it. The fact she explicitly chose to just publically "challenge" you instead, tells you she just wanted to make herself look good to leadershi
  • OP AlinHR She just said to me, "I am going to challenge your idea in that particular meeting"
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