Cheap, Noncommittal Guy Makes Plus One Pay for Boss's Wedding Gift

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    Font - Went as +1 to wedding and now asked to contribute to the gift - is this normal etiquette? I Need Advice I've been dating a 33M for a couple months now - we haven't defined the relationship or called ourselves exclusive yet. He asked me a month ago to go to a wedding with him - it was his boss's son (he's never met him) but apparently the boss is super friendly with staff and invited everyone with a +1. We went this past weekend and had a wonderful time, it was super fancy.
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    Font - Today he texted me asking if I could contribute $80 to the gift he bought for the couple (it was $160 gift card) I don't mean to be cheap but I was very surprised he asked me to do so afterwards. I didn't know the couple at all and it wasn't like his friend's wedding or anything. Am I just overreacting? Now I'm also in an awkward position where I can't really say no as then I look like a terrible person...I know it's not THAT much but it's still money I didn't know I was going to have to
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    Font - 8aL0Tb8bzBIGnow. 19 hr. ago No, that's not normal etiquette. He invited you as his +1. He was the person invited while you were his guest. If you personally knew the bride or groom and was directly invited then I would say sharing the cost with him is understandable. It's not right for him to ask for money from you.
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    Font - ichbinurkelgrue. 10 hr. ago In fact, most people would say he's violating plenty of etiquette rules here.
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    Font - Lakersrock111. 9 hr. ago This. OP make him pay, if he can't commit and make you his gf, he also can't make you do this. This guy is cheap. And noncommittal.
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    Gesture - C0333 20 hr. ago This is a red flag. How can someone be this much of a knob?
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    Font - Clementine 90 - 19 hr. ago Just be honest and say you didn't budget for that and would not have attended the wedding if you knew it was going to be asked. In a separate convo be honest and say you would rather not date anymore bc you have different life goals. Cut him loose!
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    Organism - Significant Two4868 20 hr. ago Wth yeah that's a no. Tell him to stop being cheap
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    Font - hihelloneighboroonie. 19 hr. ago Absolutely not. My ex (of many, many years) went to a number of the weddings of my friends with me as my +1 and I never once asked him to contribute to the gift. Nor would I have had I been his +1 to the wedding of a friend of his, unless we truly were both friends of theirs.
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    Font - ichbinurkelgrue. 9 hr. ago And of top of that asking AFTER the wedding! No ma'am
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    Rectangle - Windbag1980 · 20 hr. ago. edited 13 hr. ago oh you should say no. Boy howdy, should you ever say no.
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    Font - missali727 OP 20 hr. ago I feel like it's easier said then done lol I worry I'm gonna come off as ungrateful or cheap myself declining to contribute...
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    Font - Itchy_Network_5215 • 19 hr. ago . I get where you're coming from. Do you see yourself in a long term relationship with this person?
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    Font - missali727 OP. 19 hr. ago No I unfortunately don't. The morning after the wedding we were just talking generally about the future and I found out he doesn't really believe in marriage and is unsure about wanting children in the future. I think these are dealbreakers in the long run...
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    Organism - Shorty66678. 19 hr. ago Definitely do not give him any money then.

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