'What is wrong with you?': Male Karen wakes up seatmate for playing loud music, causes commotion on flight

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Ben Weiss • Writer and Editor
Dec 9, 2023 2:00 PM EST

People's perceptions of plane etiquette seem to changing, and this story clearly serves as evidence of the friction between passengers. If you were seated next to someone who was playing loud music, you probably would be slightly annoyed but the truth is in this day and age, everyone is playing music throughout the flight. The air pressure also makes it pretty hard to hear the music of your neighbor, especially if you're also listening to something. I'm just saying: slightly loud music surely is not justification for waking up your seatmate in order to tell them to turn it down. Furthermore, as was the case with this story, if everyone else on the plane including the flight attendant is giving you looks, then it's not your seatmate who is the problem: it's you. Hi. You're the problem, it's you.

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    "That girl ain't doing nothing to you and you woke her up"
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  • This thread was posted to Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole subreddit by u/Dear_Vehicle1, who turned to the wild world of Reddit for sympathy because he didn't exactly get that sympathy on the plane. It turns out he didn't get that sympathy online either. In fact, one commenter accused OP of being an unreliable narrator; others said far worse. Keep scrolling below for the full story and for the best reactions from folks in the comments section. When you're done, take a look at this list of people who shared their “thank goodness I don't have kid” epiphanies.

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    AITA for waking a girl up on a plane? I was seated next to this girl and I could hear her headphones bleeding over and it was bothering me while I was trying to read.
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    She was asleep and a I woke her up to have her turn down her music. I was in the middle seat and she was next to the window. It was about an hour into a long flight. I was super annoyed.
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    The guy in the aisle seat told me "what is wrong with you, that girl ain't doing nothing to you and you woke her up"
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    I explained to him her headphones are bothering me. He got the flight attendant and the another person in the middle seat in front of us called me a Karen.
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    He offered to switch seats with me and the flight attendant agreed but this caused 5 people to move around mid flight.
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    The guy who said what is wrong with you bought the sleeping girl some wine and told her to relax because I was so......
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    I was about to say something back to him and the flight attendant told me I was already on thin ice and not to talk to anybody else on the plane. I don't understand why no one has common courtesy anymore and the music was bothering me. I could see people talking about me when I got my luggage and I didn't think it was that big of deal to ask a girl to turn down her music.
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    Thevoiceofreason823. Info: Why did everyone else including the flight attendant think you were out of line. A simple tap on her shoulder to wake her and ask her to turn the music down wouldn't have had that kind of reaction from everyone else. 1.5k Reply Share
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    MonicaHuang. Aficionado [13] It seems there are about 4 or 5 unrelated people in your story who all thought you were being the in the way you handled this: aisle guy, flight attendant, person in the row in front of you, sleeping girl herself, etc. Since they were there and I was not, I'll take my cues from your story people: YTA. 869 Reply Share
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    Plane-Astronaut-9657. You're an unreliable narrator. If one person said you're then maybe an he's the if EVERYONE is saying you're an there is a reason that you aren't telling us. ESPECIALLY the flight attendant. 554 Reply Share
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    Dapper-Guest-5161. YTA. I feel like this is probably very sugarcoated version you're telling. Flight attendants don't get snappy for nothing, so you were 99% likely to have been in the wrong. Planes are loud, and it's your responsibility to deal with it or prepare- like bringing earbuds yourself. 212 Reply Share
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    aeroeagleAC Supreme Court Just-¡ [... If I am going to believe this is real then I am going to have to believe this isn't the full story. Five people including the flight attendant thought you were more than a little out of line? Curious exactly what you did to wake her up and notify her of the behavior you found annoying. 185 Reply Share
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    [deleted] Something about the extreme reactions from everyone around you makes me think you might have come across more negatively than you think. Tentatively I'd say NTA, but if you had a bad attitude in any way it could easily be YTA.
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    Mobius_Stripping. YTA you are not entitled to silence on a plane you are not entitled to wake a stranger - and i am guessing that if her music was on you had to physically touch her to wake her and also? either you bullied an actual child or you are referring to an adult woman as a girl, and so hence YTA
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    Downtown_Invite4092. Info were is the rest of the story because no way people reacted like that for just you asking her to turn down her music
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    2Whom it Mav Concern. YTA. If you are that sensitive to sounds you should always have earplugs. It sounds like everyone around you at the time agreed you were the AH. I mean, if there was a baby crying what would you have done? Asked it to quite down so you could focus on being an AH? Flights are annoying and uncomfortable.
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    MurphysLaw4200 YTA, if I ever was able to fall asleep on a plane, or really any form or transportation, and somebody woke me up, I'd be L...
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