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‘You appreciate your mom than you do your wife’: Woman Expects a Something Special For Mother’s Day From Husband, He Buys His Mom Expensive Jewelry Instead and Forgets To Plan Something With His Wife

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    r/AITAH • 17 hr. ago LibraryPlus 1908 AITA for being | 1 off that my husband once again made plans for us to spend mother's day with his mom?
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    I've been with my husband for 7 years. For the first 3 years of our relationship his mother lived in Canada so we didn't see her often. After that, she moved back to our home state (NJ). Her birthday is 2 weeks before mother's day and we ALWAYS end up bringing her out for her birthday and my husband, despite us not being able to afford it, treats her to a meal. And then on mother's day, same thing. Let's her pick the restaurant and
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    we go treat her to a meal. For the past two years I have told my husband that I'm honestly fed up with doing this. I told him that we should be considering her birthday dinner to be apart of her mother's day gift since it's so close to the same date and that for once, I would like him to give me a special mother's day. Last year I was so upset about it because all he got for me on mother's Day was $12 storage bins for our kitchen
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    and then we shipped right off to go treat his mom to an $120 meal. He said this year he would make sure my mother's day was special.
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    Well, he was online searching for a gift for his mother for mother's day, so I assumed that was going to be the only thing he did for her this year (he typically doesn't buy her gifts and just brings her out to eat). The necklace he ended up getting her was $130ish, because he had it engraved. But this morning she calls him and he said "well, start planning where you want to go out to eat on mother's day so I can plan ahead" and I
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    just immediately felt gutted. I loaded up the kids and went to the playground.
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    He called me 20 minutes later and asked where I had went so I told him I went to the playground. He asked which one and said he would come down and I told him I wanted space. When he asked why, I told him it was because once again he's doing for his mom on mother's day, on top of already getting her an expensive gift, so I know for a fact I'm going to be left in the dust per usual and I was extremely hurt that he told me it
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    wouldn't happen this year and he went against that. He tried arguing that it's "for both of us" but she literally gets choice of the restaurant every single time and I'm basically ignored the entire time I'm there and left to deal with the kids while he's chatting it up with his mother. I could understand if she wasn't around often and this was their chance to reconnect but she's here nearly every other day. He says I'm being ridiculous
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    and said "how do you know I didn't plan something for you too?" So I asked him if he had and he said "well no, but I can". I told him to forget about it and in a petty rage, stated that I will just get over it and accept being an afterthought and hung up. I then called up my girlfriend's and we made a plan to all go out on mother's day (I haven't been out in over a year). Well, I just got home and my husband said he had something in mind
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    that I might enjoy and I told him not to bother, as he and his mom will be in charge of the kids for the day and that I would be treating myself to a girls day. He is now saying I'm wrong because I "didn't give him a chance". AITA?
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    Emotional-Pilot-4811 • 17h ago NTA. You voiced your concerns several times and he continues to favor the celebration of his own mother instead of the mother of his children. He should 100% be prioritizing you.
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    Good for you for making spa day plans with your girlfriend on your own. Stick with them. You proactively made plans because he did not make any with you. You even asked him if he made plans and he said "well, no" so he has no right to say you didn't give him a chance. He can spend time with his
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    mom and his mom can see her son and grandchildren on Mother's Day. He can (and should) still make it up to you by doing something special the day before or buying you a special gift. Either way, you won't be waiting around on Mother's Day since you now have plans. Enjoy yourself!
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    WhyCo... 17h ago Edited 17h ago NTA, good for you. I hope you have a great time. Doing something for his mother on Mother's Day is expected, but the primary focus should be on his wife, the one who birthed both his children.
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    He could have taken you all out for brunch, given his mother a gift and then spent the rest of the day with you. Dinner, a show, whatever you are into. There are ways to balance things if he actually cared.
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    Kittenwithawhip987 • 16h ago Make sure you are outta the house before they can leave the kids with you and spoil your plans.
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    theworldisonfire8377 • 17h ago NTA, you gave him several years of "chances" for him to do something that makes you feel special too, and he failed miserably.
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    Enjoy your Mother's Day with your friends and your littles. Also tell your husband he can expect the same amount of energy and thought go into Father's Day, and his birthday, and any other special occasion. He might get the drift.
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    murphy2345678 • 16h ago NTA. You shouldn't be doing anything for Father's Day. Please tell us you don't do anything for him! Your husband is a huge AH. Good for you for standing up for yourself. Don't go out for her birthday either. It's time for your husband to realize how horrible he is treating the one person who
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    is treating the one person who should be the most important. He's a Momma's boy. He needs to grow up or go home to mommy.

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