Woman's Wedding Crashed by Mother Who Stole $60k from Her Years Earlier: 'I didn't invite you for a reason'

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Ely Bulnes • Writer and Editor
Oct 28, 2024 4:00 PM EDT

Welcome, women of the World Wide Web. It's easy to fall into a line of thinking where you feel like you need to invite certain people to your wedding - otherwise the world is going to end or everyone is going to hate you. The truth is, your wedding is your special event, and the only people in attendance should be the people that fill you with love and joy. There is no reason to invite your partner's ex, that one aunt that has always belittled your career, or your own mother if you don't want to - especially if you two are already no-contact.

In our story today, a woman finds herself kicking her own mother out of her wedding. This might seem harsh, but her mother was not even invited to the wedding! Years earlier, she stole thousands of dollars from her daughter, and the pair hadn't spoken a word since. Get the full story and juicy details down below.

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  • 01
    r/Amlthe u/mwah00 11h AITA for kicking my mom out of my wedding after showing up uninvited?
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    I (26f) have been estranged from my mom for almost 3 years now. I cut contact with her after finding out she stole $10k from me and put me on over $50k debt by stealing my SSN. She has always been very emotionally abusive, and she has tried everything in her power to split up my husband (27m) and I before we got married. For these reasons (and more) I decided not to invite her to my destination wedding.
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    Last week was the big day, and about an hour before the ceremony, my maid of honor lets me know that my mom has shown up uninvited. Meaning she FLEW ACROSS THE COUNTRY to knowingly crash my wedding. I had my MOH bring her to the bridal suite, then I spoke with her privately and told her that if she doesn't leave, I will make a scene and embarrass her in front of her entire family. She cried and gaslit me, but inevitably left.
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    After the ceremony, several family members confronted me about it and told me I'm in the wrong and that I should've just let her stay because she just wants to see her first daughter get married. I know this wasn't the reason, that it was just a power move to reinsert herself into my life. Her side of the family has been blowing up my phone since, telling me I'm wrong and that my husband and I need to apologize. AITA? 2,395 257 D
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    4th_chakra 10h Ahle Enthusiast [5] I cut contact with her after finding out she stole $10k from me and put me on over $50k debt by stealing my SSN. She has always been very emotionally abusive, and she has tried everything in her power to split up my husband (27m) and I before we got married She's lucky you haven't had her criminally charged.
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    She wasn't ever a mom to you. She used you financially, stole your ID to commit fraud, is emotionally abusive, and methodically tried to break up your relationship. Thank god you cut her out of your life.
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    Does her side of the family know the details of what happened? They don't have to. But, if they are spamming you with calls and messages over the wedding debacle, it might help them to know what sort of person this woman is, and what she has done. Of course you don't have to apologize. ΝΤΑ ... Reply 818
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    Illustrious-Humor-16 • 6h I have a niece whose mother did this exact thing, even stole money from her bank account. All 3 kids are NC with her. I'm so sorry you had to go through this, but NTA. Congratulations on your marriage and turn your phone off while on your honeymoon. 23
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    Forsaken-Lime-9333 • 11h nta. it only took me 30 seconds to read the title first paragraph to decide that ( but ofc i did read the entire thing) she stole ur ssn and put you on a countless amount of debt and showed up uninvited, she deserved it. she should've respected you when you wanted her out of your life because of what she did, what she did was wrong and not negotiable imo don't feel bad and i wouldve done the exact same thing ... ← Reply 176
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    WhoKnewHomesteading • 10h Ahle Enthusiast [5] I hope OP filed charges for fraud against her mother. 92
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    Wackadoodle-do Ahle Enthusiast [5] • • 6h Exactly. If OP doesn't do that, she'll be on the hook for the $50K. If she does file charges (fraud and theft?), then she can have a lawyer help her get the $50K wiped from her record and get her credit rating cleaned up. As it stands, OP's mother's theft and fraud is going to affect OP's ability to get credit, mortgage, car loan, and even rental apartments/homes.
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    The mother lost her right to be treated like "family" and to see her daughter ever again the minute she stole $1 from her. I would be severing the relationship without hesitation. This is OP's life and future at stake--and her husband's.
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    OP: For heaven's sake, file charges against your mother. Her criminal acts are going to affect your life for a long time to come in many ways if you don't. You owe her no loyalty, no second chances, nothing. Please don't take this lightly! NTA, of course. 40
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    not4loveormoney • 10h Using your SSN is identity theft. Tell everyone who says anything in support of her or against she what she's done. 43
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    wlfwrtr ⚫ 10h Ah le Enthusiast [7] NTA Ask family, "Apologize for what? For stealing $10,000 from my daughter? No, that was my mom. For stealing my daughter's social security number and putting her in $50,000 in debt? No, that was my mom. For trying to break up my daughter's relationship? No, that was my mom. For flying across country to crash the wedding of two people I tried unsuccessfully to break up? No, that was my mom. What exactly do I have to apologize for?" Reply + 97 ↓
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    jensmith20055002 10h Here is my Venmo and my cash app. Anyone who feels I should forgive her can repay the $50,000 she stole. Why isn't she in prison? NTA Reply 45
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    bamf1701 Craptain [175] • 11h NTA. It was your wedding and you can choose who to invite and who not to. Anyone with any sense of manners does not show up to an event uninvited. In addition, if she had wanted to reconcile, a public event like a wedding is the wrong place to do it. The fact that it was a public place meant that she probably wanted a spectacle and not and not anything substantive.
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    In any case, what happened afterwards is truly telling: all the family members calling you. She outsourced her bullying you to the family. Don't listen to any of them and, if you need to, block them and just move on. You owe no one any apologies. Reply 18 ...
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    Spare_Flamingo8605 • 10h Tell these "family" members that are blowing up your phone exactly why you went no contact and tell them you will go no contact with them too if they don't respect your boundaries Reply 10
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    Intelligent-Entry 792 • 10h NTA. I'd block anyone that thinks I owe her an apology cause they are delusional af. Reply 9 ⇓
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    ironchef8000 • 10h Professor Emeritass [88] NTA. This was an attempted control power play. You handled it well. ... Reply 6 B
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