Teen mom refuses to put son up for adoption against parents' wishes, cuts them off years later when they suddenly insist on playing role of grandparents: "They made their choice seven years ago"

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    AITA refusing give my parents first grandchild" after they disowned ?

    "I won't let them waltz back into my son's life just because they suddenly care about being grandparents."
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    So, some background: When I (27F) was 19, I got pregnant by my then-boyfriend. My super conservative parents LOST IT. They told me I had "ruined my future," called me irresponsible, and
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    gave me an ultimatum-either give the baby up for adoption or be cut off completely. I refused to give up my child, so they followed through. No financial help, no contact, nothing.
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    It was hard, but I made it work. I finished college, built a career, and raised my son (now 7M) without them. They never once reached out, even when they knew where I was.
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    Fast forward to now—my younger sister (24F) just had her first baby, and suddenly, my parents are obsessed with being grandparents. They threw a
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    huge baby shower, constantly post about being "first-time grandparents," and act like my son doesn't exist. It stung, but I let it go.
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    But then-out of NOWHERE-they reached out to me, saying they want to "reconnect" because my son is actually their first grandchild, and they feel guilty for missing out. They even had the audacity to say my son "deserves" to know his real family.
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    I told them absolutely not. They made their choice seven years ago, and I won't let them waltz back into my son's life just because they suddenly care
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    about being grandparents. They got mad and said I was being "cruel" and "selfish" for punishing them for past mistakes. My sister is saying I should at least consider it for my son's sake, but I don't think I owe them anything.
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    writing_mm_romance I'd bet money that someone remembered that you had a kid and called them on it. They're trying to reconnect to save face on the community.
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    North_Respond_6868 Or sister had a girl and now they care about their only male heir
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    fizzwitz "someday, my an might disappoint you. You rejected your own daughter when she didn't meet your expectations. In what world would I expose my son to people who are capable of such cruel behavior? If you regret how you treated me, I
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    accept your apology. But I can't take such a risk with my son. You already risked his life twice so far, once when you pushed me to give him to strangers, and again when you let me struggle on my own instead of helping us out. You don't get a third chance to let him down,"
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    Both-Buffalo9490 Especially because they said they're finally grandparents. I bet they're only interested in her son because they would be a cousin for their grandchild, not because they actually care about him.
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    Lower-Cancel1961 A playmate, like getting a kitten. Disgusting!
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    Valley OakPaper Yeah, as somebody who grew up with parents whose moral compass was "What will the neighbors think?" this drastic about-face seems awfully familiar.
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    coniferous Bobcat NTA. Your sister says you should consider for the sake of your son? I think that for the sake of your son you Shouldnt consider it. He deserves better than to be around people like that, and he deserves better than to watch his mom be treated like garbage by the people who abandoned her.
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    Any-Expression2246 Nope. Block'em all. Have a wonderful happy life. They're just trying to save face now, so they can feel better about themselves.
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    NTA oaksandpines1776 I'm betting a million dollars someone called them out on the fact that that they actually have a 7 year old grandchild and embarrassed them.
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    TwinkleLushh NTA. They abandoned you and your son. They don't get to waltz back in when it's convenient for them.
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    Funsized bookworm NTA stand your ground honey it's your parents that don't deserve yall
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    Due-Yoghurt4916 Some one brought you up publicly and people are asking questions. They want to look like devoted parents and grandparents. Or someone questioned them on social media now they are trying to save face
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    LTK622 When they reached out to you, they could have groveled for forgiveness of their horrible cruelty. But they didn't. They could have given a humble apology and acknowledged that you might need a very long time to forgive them. But they didn't.
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    They could have focused on remorse and showing consideration for you. But they didn't. They could have made an effort to understand and change what they did wrong before. But they didn't. So basically you've got three crying babies in your family, but only two of them are controlling and vindictive.
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    RedFoxBlueSocks "You want to see my son? The one you wanted me to give up for adoption?!"

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