26-year-old attempts to hijack older sister's honeymoon as a "healing trip" after a bad breakup, mom gets involved with the guilt-tripping: "She's in a really dark place"

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Ely Bulnes • Writer and Editor
Mar 27, 2025 6:00 PM EDT

Breakups are rough. Even if you got out of a toxic situation and know that the person you were with was not good for you, it can be hard to adjust to the single life. You can get your best friends to remind you of every time he made you upset, go over the manipulative texts he sent, and read your journal entries from the lowest point in the relationship, but none of it will stop you from romanticizing the past and lamenting the future you dreamed of having together.

Sometimes, when you're feeling stuck in the past, it can help to make some sort of change to get your mind off of things or broaden your perspective– cut your hair, get a new wardrobe, or go on a getaway trip! If you choose the latter, just make sure that you're not third-wheeling your sister's honeymoon – as is the case in our story today. Scroll down below to get all the details. 

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    AITAH for refusing to let my sister use my honeymoon as her "healing trip" after she got dumped?

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    So, my (30F) husband (31M) and I just got married last month and planned a dream honeymoon two weeks in Greece, just the two of us, relaxing, exploring, and enjoying our time as newlyweds. Flights, hotels, excursions all booked and paid for.
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    Enter my sister (26F), who was supposed to move in with her boyfriend around the same time. Unfortunately for her (and I mean unfortunately in the least sympathetic way possible), he dumped her two weeks before the move. She was devastated, and my family went into full "protect and coddle" mode.
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    At first, I was super supportive listened to her vent, helped her pack up her stuff, even let her crash at our place for a few days. But then, she dropped a bomb: She wanted to come with us on our
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    honeymoon because she "couldn't handle being alone right now" and needed a "healing getaway." My mom backed her up, saying we should "be there for family" and that we could "always go on another trip."
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    I laughed, thinking it was a joke. It wasn't. She fully expected me to let her tag along on what was supposed to be our romantic getaway. I told her absolutely not. She cried, called me selfish, and my
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    mom guilt-tripped me about how she's "in a really dark place." Now, both my mom and sister are making me feel like I'm heartless for not making "a small sacrifice" for family.
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    So... AITAH for refusing to turn my honeymoon into my sister's breakup recovery trip?
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  • Honeymoons are supposed to be a private celebration for the bride and groom post-wedding. After months of planning and dealing with family members, they deserve some time to rest. No one on a honeymoon wants to be babysitting their teary-eyed relative who just got broken up with!

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    Inside_Major_8078 Ohh I no!!!! Let mom take her on healing trip. Do not share itinerary or dates/times for anything. You will have an elephant of a party crasher if you do. Radio silence and NTA!!!!
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    QuantumWaffle99 Yeah Imao she's being straight-up opportunistic, trying to guilt-trip her way into a free luxury vacation at the OPs expense. And the mom acting like you can "always go on another trip"?
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    Sure, maybe she can always pay for your next one, then. Stay firm, enjoy Greece, and let the sister heal the normal way, without third-wheeling the romantic trip like an emotional stowaway
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    DJ_maecyy OP That's what im trying to say! I love my sister, but my honeymoon is NOT her rebound retreat. No itinerary leaks happening here this trip is strictly for me and my husband.
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    lonewolf369963 How is she supposed to heal by being a third wheel to a couple on honeymoon when the reason for her misery id break up? Wouldn't seeing a happy couple being romantic and lovey dovey trigger her sour memories of break up.
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    She is just jealous that she is single and her sister got married and is going on honeymoon. She doesn't need healing, she just wants to ruin OP's honeymoon
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    Super-Feedback8500 NTA you are spending time with your husband. You don't have time to spend with her on a trip. Clearly changes the entire dynamic.
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    If your mom feel she needs a healing getaway and to not be alone so much, she should go on a trip with her. And you can see her when you get back
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  • If their mom feels like sis needs a trip, then she can take her herself. It's not like our protagonist will have any time to spend with her, anyway! 

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    DJ_maecyy OP Exactly! My honeymoon is meant for my husband and me to enjoy as newlyweds, not to be my sister's emotional support trip. I get that she's
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    hurting, but that doesn't mean she gets to hijack our special time. If she needs a healing getaway, my mom can take her instead. I'm not heartless for prioritizing my marriage I'm just setting boundaries!
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    Strong_Storm_2167 NTA but have a backbone and tell your mum she is heartless for supporting your sister in coming on a HONEYMOON! Tell your mum she can take her to somewhere else! And they can have a girls trip!
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    I think your sister is doing it on purpose because she is jealous and wants to ruin your trip! Don't you dare give them an itinerary. Or if you have shown it. Then change it!!! Because she will turn up to surprise you!. Change dates also.
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    Jog212 Give her the name and number of a good therapist.
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    KittyC217 NTA. We can tell who is the golden child. Your mom and sister can go on vacation together. Enjoy your honeymoon.
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    Wiggles Giggl3s Wow, I didn't realize your honeymoon came with a side of family therapy! Next time, just pack her a box of chocolates and a self-help book instead.
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