23-year-old ostracized at work for refusing to let entitled coworker crash at her place indefinitely after a bad breakup: "I let her be homeless"

When did you stop having roommates? Unfortunately, for a lot of young adults, being able to pay the rent for a studio apartment isn't really feasible, and roommates are the only way to be able to afford housing. Technically, since I live with my partner, I still do have a roommate, but it isn't quite the same as living with strangers or psuedo-friends. While I've had great roommate experiences, most of them have been frustrating overrall. Having your own space is incredibly important, and finally snagging a place to call your own can be so freeing. 

In our story today, a young woman is ostracized at work after refusing to let her coworker crash at her place after a messy breakup. She has a 2-bedroom place, so, in theory, it shouldn't be an issue. However, the apartment is tiny, and the second room serves as a storage space and isn't really a viable living space. On top of that, our protagonist resreves the right to say "no" to indefinite roomies. Her coworker doesn't seem to understand that, though.

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    AITA for not letting my coworker stay at my place even though I "have the space"

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    so I (23f) live alone in a small 2 bedroom house. one room is mine, the other one is basically my everything room. It's my office, my closet, storage, sometimes i just lay on the floor in there and stare at
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    the ceiling when life s ks lol. it is NOT a guest room. I've lived with horrible roommates before so I worked really hard to be able to afford my own place and I love having my space. it's literally my safe little
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    bubble. anyways, one of my coworkers (25f) got into a huge fight with her roommates and they kicked her out. she was venting at work and i felt bad and was like "that saks omg" and even sent her a few places to look at. I was trying to be helpful without inviting chaos into my life yk?
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    later that night she texts me saying "hey I was thinking maybe I could just crash with you for a few weeks since you live alone and have the space?"
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    i literally got that sinking feeling in my chest. nooo. no no no. i'm not even close to her. we're cool at work but we've never even hung out outside of lunch breaks and complaining about our boss. she doesn't know anything about me. and i don't know her like that. why would she live in my HOUSE.
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    so i replied super politely like "i totally get that you're going through it but i really value my space and I'm just not in a place where I can have someone stay with me" like i was NICE. didn't ghost her. didn't ignore her. just said no.
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    next day she's acting really weird. then another coworker tells me she said i "let her be homeless" when i "have an entire room to myself." like GIRL. first of all, she's staying at her bf's place. second of all, I pay to live alone. that's the whole POINT. I don't
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    wanna feel tense or uncomfortable in my own space. I don't wanna tiptoe around a person I barely know. and I definitely don't wanna deal with “just a few weeks" turning into "i'm looking but nothing's coming through yet" for 2 months.
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    now ppl at work are acting like I'm the bad guy. sorry for not letting a coworker move into my apartment bc she had a bad fight? idk. i feel bad but like. also no. Aita??
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  • Honestly, this whole situation is HR-worthy. Pressuring a coworker into letting you live in her house for “a few weeks” by badmouthing her to everyone is creating a hostile work environment.

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    Spooky TeaTime NTA - I don't understand why a coworker would feel entitled to your home? That's truly bizarre. Her life is not your responsibility. I mean, I could maybe get it if you were super close and good, long-term friends with a deep connection... but a casual coworker??
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    fountainofMB Her entitlement is probably the reason she was kicked out of her current living situation. If you are willing to try to guilt someone to let you move in with them I can only imagine how much of an ah le you are with the dishes.
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    PurplePufferPea And for "weeks"?!?!?! She didn't ask for a day or 2 until she can figure something out, she asked to say for a few WEEKS... ***huge red flag**
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    Low-Silver-2213 This is what I came to say, I'll let almost anyone spend a night or two in my spare bedroom but WEEKS is an insane request.
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    ΝΤΑ ZookeepergameNo7151 For the co-workers saying you're letting the girl be homeless etc etc... Do you see them offering a place for her to crash? Exactly
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    Ema11e OP It's only because I work my tail off with two jobs to have extra space. Would feel pointless if I just handed that free space away.
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    nembarwung You don't have extra space though. You have the space you need and you are using it as you need to. Forget this notion of "empty space"
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    CreativeGPX You have a branding problem and that's probably what got you into this mess: Stop calling it extra space. It's clear from the way you talk about it that it's not extra space. It's the amount of space you need and it's being fully utilized.
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  • Even if our protagonist wasn't using the second bedroom as a storage space, she still reserves the right to deny her coworker. She doesn't owe her anything.

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    HonestPonder NTA Maybe the snide co-workers should be housing her if they feel that strongly about it, or pool their resources to get her a home.
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    Beyond it being "not your problem, not your responsibility" accepting a roommate is massive decision and once they're in, it's hard as h I to get them out.
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    Its ks that they're being immature about it and throwing shade, but she asked and you said no. You're not an a h_le for setting boundaries. That's your space, your home, your safe place. And she probably got kicked out for a reason
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    xzxinflamesxZX I think letting someone live with you for a few weeks after they were kicked out someplace else is just opening yourself to even more issues at work.
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    Even with that, you are not obligated to open your home to anyone (outside of VERY specific circumstances), especially for NOT for free.
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