Petty 28-year-old bride seats dad's mistress at the kid's table at her wedding, family split on her handling of the situation: “I really didn't want her to stir the pot with my family”

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    AITA making my dad's mistress sit at kids' tale during my wedding?

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    So I (28F) got married a couple of weeks ago. The day started off strong, with my bridesmaids surprising me with the best gift (a time capsule of our friendship) but the wedding escalated as soon as the guests started to arrive.
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    Backstory: My parents divorced 5 years ago after my dad (65M) had an affair with a woman. For private reasons well just call her sandra (currently 42F This really destroyed my mom and the divorce was ).
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    terrible for all of us. sandra refused to handle the situation gracefully and commented on how she was the upgrade to my "bitter and boring" mom. This made my brother distance himself from my dad for a while and I just stayed civil but distant.
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    Fast forward to my wedding. I invited my dad because he is still my dad. I made it a clear boundary for him and sandra not to cause drama or make it about them. With this being a last minute decision (I
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    REALLY didnt want her to stir the pot with my family) I assigned her a seat at the "overflow" table with kids, cousins, and the people we didn't know as well.
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    As soon as sandra arrived, she came in a floor length white sequined dress (she claimed the sequins were what made it a "wedding safe" dress). After the ceremony, she placed our wedding present on the
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    gift table where it was clearly labeled "From Mummy and Daddy". This BOILED my bl d and her dress had already put me in a bad mood. To make things worse, she dr kenly tried to raise her glass to true love finding its way, staring into the back of my moms head.
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    Since I was already busy with all the excitement from just getting married, I had almost completely forgotten I put her at the kids table. My dad didn't say anything about it at first to try and not ruin my
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    wedding but the next day he called me disrespectful and told me I needed to treat sandra like family. My brother thinks the entire situation is hilarious and is completely on my side. My mom said she would've left if sandra sat anywhere near her. But a few extended family members are saying I should've taken the high road and kept things mor mature.
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    Few-Emu1552 NTA, that was an amazing power move. Also ask your why she deserves to be treated like family.
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    Honey_Lemon_Drop OP Some of my family members have said they just dont want drama and if I left her alone our family would be more "stable"
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    LittleStarClove Eh, she needed a reminder that it wasn't her wedding.
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    hidethesunscreen Hahahahaaaaaa I love it, OP! NTA. I mean, it would be one thing if Sandra was trying to make her best to make amends (and even then you're still not obligated to forgive her she and your dad are lucky - you let her come at all) but she's a nasty piece of
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    work that's deliberately trying to cause problems, so I think it was absolutely justified. Especially after the dress bit - how your dad thought THAT was okay I can't understand, but his little wife got exactly what she deserved. Wanna act like a child, you can go and sit with them.
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    Honey Lemon_Drop OP I still love my dad but I don't know there's just something about sandra that makes him obsessed with her. He treats her like a goddess by treating her with designer bags and nice restaurants which honestly makes me think her intentions with him aren't pure.
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    ElehcarTheFirst You did take the high road. At no point did anyone drop a bottle of white wine on her dress... And she was actually allowed to attend and you did not have her escorted out by security for being awful
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    Zestyclose-Height-36 Nta. Mistress as overflow is perfect.
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    Immontes She acted like a child at your wedding so she sat where she deserved (although maybe chucked out of a window would have been more appropriate). NTA. No apologies! Your dad should not have brought her in the first place.
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    Fatkitty22 NTA, or just a bit of an ah le but completely justified. How in the h_I did your dad let her leave the house in a sequined gown to someone else's wedding???? This was an a h le move on her part. She was intentionally trying to steal the show.
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    Putting her at the kids table was sick! I love it! She's lucky she was allowed to be in attendance. You are under no obligation to treat her like "family". Your dad needs to quit that now.
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    Honey_Lemon_Drop OP Honestly, my dad is a very direct professional guy, he doesn't really notice things like how it's inappropriate to wear white to a wedding but i completely agree, she was for sure trying to make the wedding about her.

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