16-year-old brother expected to pack healthy lunches for his 3 younger siblings, he refuses and stops making his own food in protest of mom's demands: "I don't wanna do stuff for them"

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    AITA for being so against making my siblings packed lunch for school that I won't make mine anymore?

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    I (16m) got so sick of the lunches at school in the last year. They're trash and nothing ever tastes good. Nothing's all that healthy either. So back in December I decided that after Christmas I'd make
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    my own packed lunch in the mornings. My parents were cool with it at first and my dad thought it was good for me because he and mom only have basic cooking and meal prep skills so he was happy to see someone in the household do stuff.
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    I ended up with a really nice rotation of lunches. In April my mom told me I should make lunch for my siblings (14, 13 and 11) too. I told her that was not happening and she should encourage them to make
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    their own if they want something else. Mom told me it wasn't a big ask and my siblings deserved better food too. I told her they deserve better from her then but not me. The reason I was so against this is my siblings have no boundaries where I'm
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    concerned. They think they can take my stuff, come into my room without knocking or asking, they can demand I walk them to friends houses when mom and dad are busy and so many other annoying things. It's not like the worst thing ever but it means I don't wanna do stuff for them.
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    My dad acknowledges and works on this stuff with my siblings and he's punished them for taking stuff from me before. But my mom always dismisses it as oldest kid problems (she's the youngest in her family). Me and mom argued about it for weeks. Dad
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    told her to stop putting it on me and he pointed out my siblings don't complain about the lunches. Mom said it wasn't even the point and she was mad dad didn't back her up but also that I was digging in my heels so much and wouldn't listen to her as my mom. She said it was a respect thing.
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    Dad got mom to back off for maybe two weeks but once school was out for summer she was telling me starting when school returns in August I better be prepared to make lunch for everyone. I told her it
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    wasn't happening and she needed to accept it. She told me I couldn't use food purchased for the household if I'm going to be this selfish. I told her that was fine, I just won't make my lunch anymore and I'll go back to trash my school serves.
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    Mom expected me to give in and make lunch for everyone and she called me a spoiled child for going this far with it. I told her I didn't care and she was not making me give in. Dad told me I could
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    carry on making my lunches but it led to another fight between him and mom and mom saying I was behaving like a selfish brat and they raised me better than that. AITA?
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    Substantial-Air3395 NTA and I don't understand why your mom won't make the lunches.
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    FromFripped OP Because she doesn't want to. So she expects me to do it instead. That way she still saves on the cost of school lunches but doesn't have to do the work.
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    Mios04 Or why mom doesn't make the other kids prep their own lunches. My kids have been making their lunch boxes since they were 10-11. They even do it together and cover for each other without making it a bid deal. OP's mom is just a bad parent.
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    My_Dramatic_Persona I understand why. It's a lot of work. She can just think OP is "already doing it so making extra shouldn't be difficult" and have everything settled neatly in her mind.
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    Calm Mountain_8113 NTA but the kids are old enough to make their own lunches if they don't want school lunch.
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    Hidden_Vixen21 Your mother told you that you cannot use the food she is legally required to provide for you?
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    old_vegetables Mom apparently has some sort of weird complex if this favoritism all stems from her being the youngest sibling in her family. I wonder what happened to make her think that the oldest sibling is the younger's toy/servant
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    Impossible_Smile4113 Wowsa, so your mom won't properly feed her kids but expects you to because she popped you out first. Lovely. Maybe she should step up and parent her kids instead of trying to buy her oldest into doing it for her.
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    You've only got a couple more years if you plan accordingly. And it sounds like you need to be planning.
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    IAmTAAlways NTA, mom doesn't want to do her job anymore, you are not their parent. You are not responsible for whether or not they are fed and what they are fed.
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    Zephyr-Phoenix This could have been a bonding/learning opportunity for all kids to make their own lunches and learn from each other. Instead the mom demanded the oldest do all the work. NTA OP and I'm so sorry your mom s ks

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