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Introverts and extroverts speak different languages. The same event can be experienced in totally different ways depending on whether the person experiencing it is an introvert or an extrovert.

26-year-old leaves a hangout early because her friend didn't tell her she was bringing another friend, and now she questions her reaction: 'Later she went to chat with a table of pilots, and again I felt left out'

Luckily, most of this intense drama happens in high school and stays there. Still, years later, we find out we’re paying the price to this day with numerous insecurities and sensitivity around certain topics.

Best friend of six years dates the guy her friend liked in high-school, leaving her questioning if the friendship was toxic or if she is viewing everything from the lens of her own hurt: 'Was this friendship unhealthy from both sides?'

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This character flaw is rather hard to live with if a friend has it. You do your best; you tell them reunions start an hour before they actually start, so if they arrive one hour late, they are actually early.

Woman is always more than 40 minutes late to every event and friend doubts if she should confront her about her chronic tardiness or not: 'It's getting worse but at the same time I don't think she does it on purpose and I don't want to hurt her feelings'

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Bride-to-be asks her best friend of 17 years to be a bridesmaid, tells her it will cost $4700 and gets offended when the friend can't afford it: ‘[I do not] want to spend the next year managing other people’s limitations’

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Ex-husband refuses to let ex-wife dog-sit at his house while he’s on a couples trip with his new girlfriend, friends cancel over pet-sitting drama: 'If the roles were reversed, I'd do whatever it took'

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Oftentimes, we normalize the way we naturally act around friendship and never stop to think: Am I being a good enough friend? This is precisely what this Redditor started to do after she noticed most of her friends cancelled on her at the last minute. My take on the topic is that her friends doing that doesn’t necessarily mean she is a bad friend; it might even mean she has bad friends lol.

28-year-old woman wonders how can she become a better friend after all her friends cancel on her last minute and thinking her being a bad friend is causing that: 'I feel like I should be a better friend so people would actually want to spend time with me'

There’s a fine line between helping someone and enabling them. I’ve been in situations myself where friends of mine acted stingy with their stuff. In those cases, helping out wouldn’t have been a way to enable me, but I understand everybody draws the line in a different place. This woman seems puzzled about the way she acted towards a friend of hers.

31-year-old woman refuses to offer her spare bedroom to her friend who's being kicked out and becoming homeless: 'I do feel bad, however I don’t feel responsible to offer my spare room'

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31-year-old man ends a 10-year-old friendship after finding out he wasn't invited to his friend's wedding through a social media post: 'The wedding list was apparently "very constrained"'

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Nobody else but us can say what’s important for us in our friendships and in our lives. When we constantly feel somebody else doesn’t listen to us, it’s ok to listen to that feeling, but sometimes we get glimpses of something else that might be going on. It’s always ok to try to have an honest conversation with ourselves, or with a forum on the internet lol, and see whether we are exaggerating through our pretensions or not.

Guy constantly feels unheard and overriden over "little things" but refuses to be more direct when they happen: 'If I did the same things he did, to my own mother, she would get incredibly angry'

Big events have a way of bringing everything into light. Those days, when our feelings are exacerbated and expectations are high, old dynamics we’ve gotten so used to that we stopped noticing them show themselves again at full force. The resulting feeling is bittersweet; we see something clearly now- which is in itself a blessing, but what we see isn’t beautiful at all.

Bride abruptly ended a 10-year friendship with her maid of honour after what happened on her wedding day: 'Eventually I asked her for honesty and closure. What I got back shocked me.'

For some time now, I’ve realized that some things aren’t solved through talking. I know this is a rather controversial stance in times where everywhere we look, we are bombarded with the message that we should ‘talk things through’, that we should ‘go to therapy’, and that will be the solution to all our problems.

Woman asked for a "low maintenance" friendship but gets upsed when she is treated as such, leaving friend wondering if the low maintenance only applies for her: 'She also said bringing up friendship issues over text makes her anxious'

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Child-free woman splits costs 50/50 with her best friend for years until she starts bringing her kids along too, so she quietly starts declining every invitation: 'I feel financially drained'

To memories that cling We all have that friend who won’t let go. It’s borderline fascinating how, for some people, things that happened in high school are still relevant today. Relevant to the point that they would dedicate hours to ruminate about something somebody said ten years ago like it was yesterday.

'I think I might have ended my longest friendship of 30+ years': 45-year-old man reflects on the one thing that finally ended his friendship with his oldest, clingiest friend and wonders if he did the right thing

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Man expresses his frustration with friends who 'dry shower' instead of actually bathing: 'It is the visible layer of day-grime that stays on the skin'

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Imaginary friendship Is it just me, or is this a classic situation? I’ve been through this so many times. I hope I haven’t done this to anyone, but it always goes like this: you get together with someone once or maybe twice, and they start believing you are their best friend, but you are not there yet, and you might never be.

Man wonders how to gently decline woman's request to get together after years of her thinking they share a friendship that is actually non-existing: I’m also turned off by the way she declared in her email that ‘we should do this and do that together’

I highly recommend skipping the roommates phase if you can. The fantasy is wonderful, you get to live with a friend your age, and everything is fun and games, until it isn’t. With my experience, I’ve come to realize that when you get to know people through living together, you find the weirdest stuff about them.

24-year-old woman refuses to follow roomie's unfair guests policy and wonders whether she should bring it up or stay silent to keep the peace: 'She wants rules that only apply to me'